This is just something I've noticed lately, I am a bit down at the min after being in good form all day, It came totally out of the blue and if I track back I can find the cause, My wife said we are going to a New Years eve party, she said we would go before she even ask me, she told me the night and me being me I went of in a negative rant I.E "I'm not f£££king going to that, I don't even like them people etc etc" The exact same happened Christmas eve, I went of in a negative rant and ruined my Christmas, Have you noticed how your negative talk makes you depressed or is it just me? Its amazing the power some words have
2007-12-27 08:46:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Many people confuse depression with sadness, anger, discomfort, etc. Your reactions are normal and you should discuss them with your wife and not dismiss them as "depression" which is a clinical definition for a disorder.
2007-12-27 08:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by CiCi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if those words have such a negative effect on you think what it does to others hearing them
On second thoughts it sounds more like a typical male temper tantrum. I'me very familiar with them as I have an older brother that has been having tantrums his entire life and he is not depressed. His wife of 45 yrs is though
2007-12-27 08:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is one I can relate to. However after years of learning self development techniques - I have found the self control to keep my big mouth shut whenever negatives arise. Once self control is triggered, there are many techniques with which to handle the negative emotions - in particular EFT.
2007-12-27 08:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is called "situational depression"; a situation brings you down, unlike organic or chronic depression. Your responses apparently add to feeling down. It would be helpful if you both agreed on attending events, rather than one of you telling the other what's planned;you can then discuss options and give yourselves the opportunity to compromise. Plan ahead, not at the last minute with demands.
2007-12-27 09:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by januarymoon1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Eeeek. I think sometimes we need to reflect on what we are grateful for more often. Every time I think in a grateful way for my life, I feel my mood improve. Try to think of something you're grateful for at least 5 times per day. I know you'll feel less depressed.
2007-12-27 08:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by ossaciP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine if you ruined your Christmas, how it must have been for your wife?? Look around at the people you care about and THINK before you speak...
2007-12-27 08:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Words are powerful. She should have consulted with you first. You might have a better time than you think. There is always some hope. It's good to be around other people. We need that human interaction.
2007-12-27 08:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whaaa, Whaaa, Whaaa. At least you have a wife and parties to go to. Try spending the holidays alone. I did and did'nt cry to anyone.
2007-12-27 08:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually give the negative language because I AM depressed...the language doesn't spark it it's a result of how i am feeling
2007-12-27 08:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by metalfacedfrog 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depression is just anger turned inwards. If you know what you are angry about and deal with like a normal human being, you won't be depressed. It seems that you have mastered this except for part about dealing with it. Don't be a slave to your emotions - we are not women.
2007-12-27 08:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋