To give everything you have and are into the relationship, to truly feel that you couldn't live without the other?
Or, is this something we go through only as teenagers and never to feel this way again?
2007-12-27 08:43:05 · 30 answers · asked by Fugitive Peices 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to not allow our past hurts, circumstances, and our own strongholds from the past, keep us from opening up to the other 150%?
2007-12-27 08:44:33 · update #1
Yes it is. Though humans have to have that physical attraction first. If we were all blind, and had to find the perfect someone through their heart and our own heart, you would find a-lot more people truly happy. We see someone we like, then we get to know them, then we immediately start trying to change them. Habits we don't like, friends they have that we find undesirable, where they go, what they do, how they dress.....etc.etc.etc.. Where if we took the time to find all that in the person that all ready has those qualities, then we would not take the time to change someone, who in the long run will never really change. To change someone against their will, never works. When you are dating someone ask yourself this.."Do they have 3 things about them that I will not be able to live with?" If you find 3 things...quit dating them . Move on. You will one day find someone that loves you for you and visa versa. If whom you are dating becomes a chore instead of natural...well you are with the wrong person. Loving someone should never have to be a chore. Be happy. Make someone else happy by being you, and allow them to be themselves in return. Yes... true love, honest to goodness true love is out there. I see it with many people I know. I also see the opposite. Laboring to just make it work when it never will.
2007-12-27 08:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by chaosismyidentity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - love is an action - you give them your best and hope for the best even if you know you wont get it. Temptations are too great and our spouses are human. They will never be perfect enough. Some are so imperfect you can know not to trust them - they will 100 % of the time gamble the tax rebate check or be late to your apt. or will still look at porn even though they promised not to. You love them warts and all - but if you see the warts big time before wedding and its a bad one - like cheating on you and your engaged or illegal stuff - get out. If its later your find out and its not abusive or really hurting you both - learn to adjust and forgive. If your spouse really loves you they are not intending on hurting you with this - just know that and love them anyway but plan for what ever the worst case is - be smart. Stock away a little emergency money and have a good job yourself.
2016-05-27 05:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this may be a profound question. I pray for Heaven to help me do this. But, no, it is not possible to always love someone unconditionally without the help of The Lord Jesus, I think. Unconditionally may mean something different to some than others, see. But, it means you might make a mistake about even who you choose for a spouse to me. Then the unconditional love would still have some conditions attached, wouldn't it? So, no, I do not think that would be possible.
2007-12-27 08:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by brendantx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its possible but somethings just get in the way like work and others things and you begin to forget about but its still there! Teenagers have time on their hands so it seems that it only happens a teenagers! But its throughout your life but the trick is keeping that unconditional love and not forget it!
2007-12-27 08:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by city girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, God is the best example of true unconditional love
And YES I do believe that with growth comes maturity and wisdom
A book that REALLY helped me is called "Love is a Decision" by Gary Smalley and John Trent--- Btw love has NOTHING to do with feelings because feelings can lie and true love never will.
I hope that this helps
2007-12-27 08:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel this way about my husband and my daughter. I often wonder if anyone has loved as deeply as I love him. I can overlook everything when it comes to him and our beautiful daughter! You have to find the one person who you can spend all night talking with or sit on the side of the bed and just hold eachother never needing anything more but to feel thier touch....it is so amazing!
Momma_Bear
2007-12-27 08:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I will get thumbs down on this all the way but I truly believe with all my heart there is only one unconditional love and that is the love that Jesus Christ has for us.
I love my husband and my parents and many more people with all my heart and soul. With as much love as humanly possible, That is the love that Christ gave to us to love each other with. I feel that, I just do.
OK OK start the thumbs down NOW!
nfd♥
Love your song, brendantx!
2007-12-27 11:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by fishineasy™ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think teens ever feel unconditional love for someone they are involved with. That kind of commitment comes only from knowledge of another person and the maturity to understand what real love is. You will never be able to provide that kind of love, or to receive it if you can't open yourself and ignore past hurts.
2007-12-27 08:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am nearly 50 and have been married twice before. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, and every day is better than the next. I have never loved anyone more in my life other than my son!
2007-12-27 08:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Maris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is possible. I long for the day to see that it goes both way though. I have felt it and thought that it was both ways. I wonder if you just found that one person that just fits right. As long as you trust each other enough, the love never diminishes. Just my perception.
2007-12-27 08:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Gohappy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋