Should you end a marriage over it?
A one or two night fling?
2007-12-27 08:29:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just sex between two non-committed individuals is OK. Sex between one person and another who is in a committed relationship is NOT OK.
Brandon
2007-12-27 08:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as "just sex" in a marraige. If the couple was actually happy (emotionally & sexually), there would be no reason for anyone to step outside of that marraige---even if one person was millions of miles away for a year or two. The fact that one person had to have flings shows that there are some serious problems that the couple needs to address PRONTO if they ever want to reunite. Maybe it's a lack of communication, maybe it's a lack of fire/excitement, maybe it's just that the two of them aren't as compatible as they initially thought they were. They need to get to a marraige councelor asap to work this out, even if they don't stay together.
Also, sleeping with another person can lead to other things. They could start a real relationship with this person(s) or they could just as easily catch a disease or get someone pregnant. If it is random people, you need to be incredibly careful of disease. Even if you are using protection (condoms), there is no guarantee that you won't catch something. Condoms break or fall off & *very* few people will admit that they have an STD or AIDS/HIV. Many will either not tell you or lie to you in order to get you in bed. What if this other person brought home an STD to their spouse unknowingly?
Also, flings are bad for not only the spouse's self esteem, but the cheater's as well. If flings really were so great then they would never have wanted to get married. They married so they could have stability. Cheating (that is what flings are) will only make the person feel worse & worse. In the end, I can see where one person would be willing to leave the marraige after discovering this. There's no trust & that is one of the most important parts to a marraige.
2007-12-27 08:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like there is no rule to people's situations, there is no exception to the rules of marriage. Every relationship is different, however, one thing never changes no matter who you are.
The law of HABIT.
Humans are habitual beings. So whether the fling is for just sex or for self esteem issues, it is "this" reason that is creating the reaction. An action most likely to be repeated..
2007-12-27 08:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lilo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no way to adequately answer this question without more details. In general, I'd say it's not worth ending a marriage over... but so much depends on the nature of the fling...
2007-12-27 08:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Twice as Nice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is never "just sex".
This happens just to animals, because they feel the urge to procreate. That is how they are designed.
Human beings are different- or should be, at least.
People who cheat have serious self-esteem issues, and unless they really try to find out why they do what they do, chances are they will not change their ways.
As for this being a legitimate reason for ending a marriage, yes, it is. Why? Because a marriage means trusting your partner. And if you don't have trust, you don't have anything.
2007-12-27 08:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
it dose all the time but it not just the sex if it ends you need more than sex to keep a marriage going but it is a big part of a marriage it help the other person know that you still love them
2007-12-27 08:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I would end it if my husband had even a one night fling, or even a kiss with someone at work, or even a cyber affair...
forsaking all others was the vow... I take the vows seriously...
too bad many others don't... sad...
it's never just sex... it's called cheating... having sex w/ someone else is wrong, and it's rude, and inconsiderate, and these days, you now have aids, hpv, crabs, herpes... it's not worth it...
if you think it's just sex, what do you think of marraige? it's "just marraige"? pfffttt...
2007-12-27 08:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because if he can have a two night fling, he could do it again and again. Move on, he doesn't respect you.
2007-12-27 14:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it ever just sex?? Maybe with men but us woman put more feeling into it!! I couldn't be with someone that has a fling!!
2007-12-27 08:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Uhm... yeah that would matter to me A LOT. The fact that my husband found someone ELSE so utterly irresistible , enough to have sex with her would rip my heart out. I would have no choice but to leave because otherwise our relationship would be terrible from then on out.
2007-12-27 08:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by plastic 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋