Will my inlaws ever like me again??

Question

I have been with my husband for 3 years now, we have been married for a little less than a month. For the first years my inlaws loved me, always talked to me, hugged me, took me to dinner when my husband (a police officer) was working nights, took me shopping, EVERYTHING! But the past few months, when I go to their house with my husband, they ignore me, its stretching it to say that they have said 5 words to me in the past 6 months! On Dec 3rd we eloped, leaving hard feelings, even though we told them 2 months earlier to avoid that very thing from happening! We arrived the morning of our wedding to remind them and tell them we were leaving to go do it, and they were shocked and did not even remember we had told them!!!!! What am I supposed to do?!?!! How can I bring up this subject with them?? They arent people that you can cry on their shoulder, they are tough (his dad is police officer also)...HELP please

Answer 1

Hopefully, time will help to heal them. They're obviously hurt, but maybe there are ways to bring them around. It definitely needs to be discussed and your husband should be the one to break the ice with them. He should let them know that you both love them dearly, but eloping was the best thing for the two of you. Acknowledge their hurt, but encourage them to move on from here. Invite them to dinner....plan some events together (games, shows, shopping trips). Make them feel wanted and special...

I hope this helps. It's a hard situation. Good luck to you~!

Answer 2

Not sure why you guys opted to elope maybe that has something to do with it. Perhaps they found out something about you that they do not like. You or your husband should sit down and have a long talk with them. Let them know how important the relationship between you and them are.

I personally think your husband should take more initiative on this.

Answer 3

Just give it time. You did eloped with their child and most parents want to be there for that special day in their child's life. If you feel that you need to fix this problem; have a after wedding party and included them. Even if that means doing your vowels in front of them again.

Answer 4

don't beat yourself up over it. It is your decision and atleast you told them in advance. Did you give them permission to come with you? maybe they just feel like that it is a part of their life that they will not be able to have now. Just keep being nice maybe talk to them about how you are feeling (it might help to get your feelings out there) If they still respond poorly then distance yourself visit only on holidays and on special occasions. Do not put yourself through misery.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

sounds like they are blaming you and not their son for eloping. I think your husband needs to speak with his parents first and let them know it was a joint decision from you and him. Time will heal the wound.

Answer 6

They feel like you robbed them of sharing the glory of your wedding.....They feel left out.

I am going through the same crap but it's my family.....my husband is having a hard time with it....

Time will heal all wounds.....your husband needs to have a chat with them.....as I did with my family.....

My dad is ok with it now....but my mom and sister....I no.....I still struggle....

Answer 7

These are your husband's parents, HE needs to talk to them.

Answer 8

Tell your husband to talk to them. Is he afraid of them? His job to protect you. Not be a whip...Go do it woman!!!

Answer 9

It's up to your husband to patch things up. It's easier on them to be mad at you then to be mad at their precious son.

Let it be, be nice and smile. They will come around.

Answer 10

Ignore them.