Is it ok to be this excited?

Question

Ive only seen my baby on the u/s when I was 3 months along and I wanted to cry bc I saw everything so clear. The nose, the arms, the legs, and the belly. It was so wonderful. Even tho I havent seen my baby anymore bc my doctor is strict about ultrasounds, I still picture my baby moving in there. I am so happy to be having a baby but I feel that this happiness is just temporary, bc Ive heard a lot of my friends talk about their pregnancies and they say its horrible and labor is a nightmare. I love my baby soooo much already, but I also feel that my husband is not as excited as he should be since this is his first baby too.

Answer 1

Its all happening with you and not your dear husband. He cant help it as he doesn't understand and he never will. It so special what's happening to you and NEVER let anyone take away your happiness with all their scary stories. Yes it hurts but it is SO worth it! your baby is so special and wonderful despite what ever happens at the birth you will fall in love with the little person inside of your body now, you will feel like you know them already.
Because your husband isn't carrying the baby he will not feel the same way you do and its ok. Iv'e had 4 children and each time its been the same with me. My husband wishes that he could carry a baby just to see what its like because its something that only we can do!

All the best!

Answer 2

Don't worry, he'll be excited once the baby arrives - men are concrete, and he needs to see to understand.

I loved my pregnancy. In fact, other than being a bit tired toward the end and really uncomfortable swollen feet the last 2 weeks, I felt great. I think it's in how you approach it. Keep all that positive energy and excitement going.

Labor is called that because it really is. Your experience will vary based on your prior life experiences. If you are a marathon runner, for instance, you'll handle it really well (I have a friend who runs marathons and she only had to push 3 times) because you're used to fatigue and discomfort. If you are extremely overweight, never exercise, and have a low pain threshold, well, things will be a little different.
Everyone's labor is different, and is influenced by how tense you are and how in shape you are.
Do your kegels, your yoga, your stretching, etc. Inform yourself so you know what to expect during every stage. Listen to the nurses - they've done this many times and can help you through the worst of it. Make sure you have a really unflappable person in the labor room with you to keep you focused.
As far as pain meds, take the epidural if you have a low pain threshold or if you're afraid - it'll help you dilate, and reduce your pain. Don't take it if you know you really need to move around - you won't be able to.
I skipped it because I need to MOVE when I'm uncomfortable, and change position etc.

And remember, you only have to get through one contraction at a time.

PS - Even in the transition stage, not all contractions are equal - some are really light and others are really hard. I wish someone had told me this! It's nice when you get that break!

Answer 3

Of course its ok to be excited. And labor normally isn't as bad as most people make it out to be. My first child, I had an epidural, the second child, it didn't work, so with the third, 5 years later, I didn't even try to get an epidural, and yeah it hurts while its happening, but you feel alot better after its over. You are not groggy or doped up, and you can enjoy your new baby with a clear mind. Don't worry the husband will come around, especially the closer it gets to time. Like when you find out what the baby is.

Answer 4

As a father of 2 boys there is no greater joy in the world than to experience the birth of a child. Some men don't want to show their femine side and once the baby is in their life all changes for the best. They can actually see another human being that they created and the bond last a life time. I was 18 years old with my first son and just out of high school and I can remember it as if it was yesterday. I was present in the delivery room with both of my son's births and I remember running down the hallway after the birth of my first son and yelling at the top of my lungs I have a son. letting all the world know of my joy You relax and let nature take over and God Bless you and your new family. I am happy for you and your husband, be patient for your husband will change he will be caught up in the joy,soon enough.

Answer 5

I had a great pregnancy with my daughter. I had the usual(for me) pregnancy niggles such as some morning sickness etc but it didn't bother me. My labour wasn't horrible. I felt that it was an amazing experience. I had a natural delivery with a tens machine and gas and air. Every birth is different so don't listen to much to other people and do what is best for you. As for your husband what he is doing is pretty normal. My partner was the same. He didn't seem that interested but all that changed when our daughter was born. I hardly got a look in! We talked about it the other day and he said that he felt "redundant" when i was pregnant cause he didn't feel any of the symptoms. When he could feel her kick he got a little more excited but not as much as me. Oh and i know what you mean about the scan. I still look at mine now and it brings a tear to my eye! My daughter is 21 months old

Answer 6

When your pregnant men are never excited that much..but when you go to have the baby there excitement comes out. My fiancee wasnt all that excited when i was pregnant with my daughter but after she was born and he held her he cried. Dont listen to people about how horrible the labor is..i was so scared cause of the labor pain..YES it does hurt im not going to lie to you..but the pain is all worth it once you hold your child for the first time. Its okay to be excited right now i was..except my OBGYN gave ultrasounds every month. When i was pregnant i always dreamed about what my daughter would look like she was nothing like i pictured she was so much more beautiful than i could have ever imagined!!

Answer 7

It's normal. You are the one carrying the baby and you are the one who will give birth to it so of course you are going to be all excited! No labor and delivery are not fun. AT ALL. But don't even worry about it because when you see your bundle of joy the pain is completely irrelevant. I promise you it will hurt like hell but I also promise you that you will think it is worth it. My hubby wasn't as excited as me either. Nobody was. Just me. Why? Because I am the MOMMY!! Do you have any pregnant friends or neighbors that you can be all excited with? If not try to find someone to hang with who can relate and share in your excitement. Good Luck!! Congrats!!

Answer 8

Well, you can't really have high expectations for your husband. It's different for men. Don't listen to your friends that tell pregnancies are horrible. If needed isolate yourself from them. All you need is some positive friends who will support you and be excited for you as well. However, don't forget to give your husband attention like you used to when you just got married. He needs to know that you still love him so much and that the baby is the fruit of your love.

Answer 9

Don't expect hubby to be as excited as you. He now has to worry about providing for another life and he doesn't have a tiny little miracle growing inside him!!

YES!!! Be excited!! Enjoy your pregnancy!!! Labor is temporary and the pain can be awful (epidurals are great), but it only lasts a little while!! Then you get to hold your baby and you forget the pain!!

Answer 10

The men are never as excited as the women. We have much more going on with us that makes it more real. I'm glad you are so excited! If you aren't against it, get the epidural. I did and totally enjoyed the birth of my baby and would do it again in a heartbeat! In fact my son is just 3+ months and we're thinking of trying to get pregnant again!