this happened during a marital fight. we were fighting in the car and as soon as i got off a bottled water was thrown at me by my husband. i was not hit but im wondering if it is normal in a relationship? or a sign of more abuse to come?
we have been married for 5 years and this only happened recently.
your opinion is valuable.
2007-12-27 07:55:23 · 13 answers · asked by nightingale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Glass or plastic? Empty or full? An empty plastic bottle, no.
2007-12-27 08:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we do silly things. We lost control for a little while, but it doesnt mean he is an abuser. After 5 years and this is the first time, then I doubt whether worse will come. If he was an abusive man, you would have found that out a few years ago. Does he allow you to have friends? Is he a controlling sort of a guy? Has he moved you away from friends and family? If you can answer yes to all three of those questions then there may be a possibility he is an abuser. If the questions I just asked does not apply to your husband then I think you can be pretty sure, it was just one of those things that happened after he lost contrrol for a bit. Im sure if he wanted to hurt you, he would have aimed better. Im sure if he wanted to hurt you he would wait until you are indoors and give you a might good hit with his fists, not a bottle of water.
2007-12-27 08:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glass or plastic?
When people resort to physical violence like that it usually means that they no longer have the ability to express their feelings and to hurt you with words. The last thing you said to him was probably so hurtful to him that saying something hurtful back to you was insufficient so he threw the bottle. This is no excuse and doing such a thing is abusive but if you say in five years nothing of the sort has ever happened then maybe you should go over whatever fight you were having in the car and try to recall the last thing you said to him or what it was pertaining to. Kind of like if someone was sexually abused as a child and then as an adult they have a fight with a person close to them who has no knowledge of the abuse and the other person makes a wise comment in the middle of the fight like, "did someone touch you as a child or something?" The person will become far more offended than his or her close friend intended and the reaction will be exponentially worse and more violent. Perhaps you struck a cord with you husband that you are not aware of??
2007-12-27 08:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think whatever you were arguing about hit a nerve with him. Next time this subject comes up, try a different approach. If this behavior continues, you need to leave- it will get worse.
I was with someone for 8 years and I put up with escalating behavior for the last 2 years in our relationship before I got out.
I wish you luck and God Bless
2007-12-27 08:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sparxfly 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on one thing... do you think he intended to hit and harm you with the bottle? If so.... it could be signs of things yet to come... but I would THINK that after 5 years whatever yet to come would have already came. My husband throws things all the time in hissy fits but he hasn't been abusive yet.
2007-12-27 07:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by NewMommaNWife 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was thrown AT you then yes. Throwing things in general is one thing but throwing them AT you is quite another. My husband and I have had some good ones and thrown things and slammed doors but NEVER NEVER has anything been thrown AT ME. You should really examine what type of a person that you are with, for your own safety. Maybe there are red flags that you have been ignoring that have led to this point.
2007-12-27 08:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by mt025 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is a sign of abuse because he shouldnt have gotten that mad to where he wanted to throw something at you and hurt you. Let him know that is not accepted and if it happens again then you will divorce him
2007-12-27 08:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by LOVELY25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't consider it abuse if he did not hit you with it, but I do think you need to watch this to make sure it does not escalate to something else
2007-12-27 08:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he really trying to hit you? Aiming for your head? It just kind of depends on the situation. I don't really think this would happen all the time.
2007-12-27 09:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's never tried to physically abuse you before, it was probably the result of an anger flare up, just grabbed something and threw it.
2007-12-27 07:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's not a good sign for him to be throwing things at you no matter what they are. Next time it could be something heavier or sharper that could really hurt you.
2007-12-27 07:59:39 · answer #11 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋