My 18 year old sister told me today she thinks she is pregnant and is thinking of getting an abortion. I don't agree with this but I don't know what to do, should I tell my mother? I offered to take care of the baby but she said she isn't ready to have a child.
2007-12-27 07:51:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She can make her own choices but i think its best that she takes a prenancy test to make sure she is pregnant .......i don't think abortion is a very good idea.....when you find out your pregnant at a young age its scary but later on you'll find out that babies are very fun and nice.....abortion is a very SCARY and big thing, later on (if your sister does make the abortion choice) your sister will regret it......that is not the best choice out there......
-daotiff55
p.s. i think its best to tell your mom if your sister is pregnant at this very young age but i think you should tell your mom and work ir out.....she will probably be a little dissappointed but later she'll be fine....
Hope I helped you and your sister!!
2007-12-27 08:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥TiFFanY♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a choice that only she can make because as much as you don't agree with abortion, offering to take care care of the baby isn't much. SHE'S the one that has to carry the child for 10 months, go through labor and delivery, financially it would be HER burden and a lot more that comes with being a mom so if she feels she's not ready let that be a decision she makes and will have to live with.
2007-12-27 16:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Your sister is an adult and despite the fact that she is doing something a lot of people think is immoral, this is her decision to make. I would not risk ruining my relationship with my sister or her ruining her relationship with your parents just because she feels she made a mistake. She may tell in time when she is emotionally ready. Just be there for her and support her in this difficult time is the best thing to do.
2007-12-27 16:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by I'll tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, are you ready to take care of a baby? You dont state your age, but when I was 30 with a husband found babies very enjoyable, but busy!! I think the first step is to have her take a pregnancy test. It is much easier to make a decision based on a positive or a negative reading. If positive, maybe look into some counseling for both sides. If negative, look at steps to prevent further stresses of getting pregnant. She is luck to have someone who is very caring in her life. Good luck!!
2007-12-27 15:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No do NOT tell your mother, she is 18 which is a legal adult. You are violating her trust if you do so. If you are pregnant it is your choice, she is the one who is pregnant, so it is not your choice, it is your job as a sister and friend to support her in whatever decision she makes, not tell people who will guilt her into keeping it. If you really want your mom to know then encourage your sister to tell your mom herself and explore all her options.
I have 2 older and 2 younger sisters and would never forgive them if they did that to me, trust me as you get older you will lean on your sisters more than you know, there may come a time you need her not to tell your mother a major event in your own life.
2007-12-27 16:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell your mother anything, but convince your sister to open up to your mother herself. She might want to get an abortion because she is scared. Ask her to take some time to think about it.
2007-12-27 15:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she wasn't 18 I'd say tell your mother. Your sister is an adult now and can make her own choices. Tell her there is always adoption and then go to youtube and find abortion videos to show your sister what they do. Then it is up to her on what decision to make.
2007-12-27 15:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not your decision. All though I totally don't agree with abortion, as I think it is murder. But this is not your place to tell your mother. Sit your sister down and talk to her about it. Let her know there are more options and that you will love her no matter what.
2007-12-27 15:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by remedy9874 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Even though you disagree with her, she's 18 and it's her decision. A child is a lot of work and if she isn't ready for that it's not your responsibilty to convince her otherwise.
2007-12-27 16:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by jklaus7 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe these people are telling you not to violate her trust in you....WHO CARES ABOUT TRUST! She is thinking of murdering your niece or nephew. If you don't at least try to save that baby you will feel guilty for the rest of your life. If that poor babys "mother" doesn't care about them, then someone needs to at least try to protect him or her. YES, TELL YOUR MOM, maybe she can do something.
Also, would you "support" her decision if the baby was already born and she was abusing them? It's the same thing. Don't stand by and do nothing.
2007-12-27 16:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by ROBIN T 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋