and when do you decide if you want to divorce
2007-12-27 07:35:12 · 12 answers · asked by paula z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am hoping you have known him before he went to prison. My husband is in prison but I have known him for 12 years. He went to prison for a non-violent crime and I decided to stay faithful and stay by his side. I decided that 2 years isn't that long.
There are support groups by emails, there are sometimes support groups available in some areas for families who have loved ones in prison and there are advice and information website specifically for families who have a loved one in prison.
You should try to accept calls when you can, do NOT over-exert yourself on spending money on collect calls and sending money orders. It is encouraged to write letters and visit as often as possible. You need to take care of yourself FIRST!
It's not easy, most people look down on people who have a spouse in prison. However, sometimes it can work out, and many times it does NOT work.
Just because a man is in prison it does NOT give him the right to be verbally and emotionally abusive...which is very common in this type of a situation.
If you need resources, please let me know.
You decide you want a divorce when you don't hesitate on answering the question if you want to get a divorce. Everyone makes mistakes and others need to allow you to make your own choices and accept them.
2007-12-27 07:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets re-cap. You want to marry someone new after only 3 months, you want to know if your marriage with spouse in prison can work and you want to know if you should divorce.
Maybe therapy is a good idea.
2007-12-27 07:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Islander 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usually prison means felony or repeat ofender. No, it's not healthy--I'd probably want a divorce yesterday. And, if he's still getting into trouble while in prison, then that should tell you all you need to know about his ability to reform---NONE!
2007-12-27 08:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage isn't healthy if your spouse is in prison. He or she obviously didn't care enough about being with you to think of the consequences of their actions...just my opinion.
When you start to ask questions like this, and it isn't just a phase- that's when you decide to get a divorce.
2007-12-27 07:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
1. Length of sentence?
2. What's he in there for?
3. Been there in the past?
4. Been there when you were living together/married previous to this?
If the answers are:
1: One year or more
2: Felony/Repeat offender
3: Yes
4: Yes
Then your final answer is: Divorce the bum.
2007-12-27 07:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure it can. If he's going to be there longer than a couple of years I'd divorce and move on. You didn't do the crime. Why should you do the time?
2007-12-27 07:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is in jail so i know where you are coming from he's your husband and that was part of your vows to stand by him. If he did something foolish and went to jail that means he broke his vows if he's coming home soon then you guys should work on it, if not he should opt out to make it easy for you.
this i touchy subject to talk about because there is a lot the someone say they will do until they are in the situation.
2007-12-27 08:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends why he is in jail. And how long he is in jail for. You decide to divorce when you decide, no one can tell you that.
2007-12-27 07:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Siamese Triplets 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that decision would be based on the situation. How long will he be in prison, what did he do, etc....
2007-12-27 07:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking that the old saying, "birds of a feather flock together" is evident here. You obviously PICK the loser, that means YOU may have similar feathers on YOUR little wings.
2007-12-27 07:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋