Alright so I am 19 and I would rather live on my own. I know love is beautiful even though I have never felt it. But me I live to dangerous of life and dont think it would be right to put a wife and especially a kid through that. I just dont think I am fit to be husband or a dad. Is it wrong to just give up on that cuz of the way I live?? I just dont want to be one to leave a son without a father and wife with out a husband. Better to just stay out of that and no one gets hurt.
2007-12-27 07:30:49 · 19 answers · asked by I like to drink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know but everyone says that I am gonna miss out on so much but if it ruins some one elses life I really dont want to take that risk.
2007-12-27 07:36:20 · update #1
I am not saying I wont make it to be an old man just not a very good chance and not gonna put some one through that so its better to just be alone and no one needs to be hurt
2007-12-27 07:39:48 · update #2
I just wont allow myself to fall in love its just something I cant do u might not understand but its just how it is
2007-12-27 07:43:24 · update #3
I dont want to meet a girl cuz I will not allow myself to fall in love and my life style is not fair to some one who loved me
2007-12-27 07:46:50 · update #4
10 years ago I said the same thing. After 4 years in the Army, 5 years of Marriage and a tour in Iraq, I wish I would have listened to myself. Of course there's absolutely nothing you can do about falling in love, it just happens. I put my family through a lot of heartache while I was deployed, now we are paying for it. My marriage probably won't last another month. There's nothing wrong with your line of thinking, I just doubt you will be able to hold on to it. Good Luck.
2007-12-27 08:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I know this is going to sound cliche but you are only 19 and you have several years ahead of you to think about getting married and having a family.
It is your life and those that say you will be missing out maybe you might but you have a valid point of not wanting to leave a widow or a child without a father.
When it comes down to it only you can make the decision to get married and start a family. Enjoy your life and what ever you do for your "dangerous life style" be careful because I am sure that you have parents, and other family members and friends who would hate to loose you.
2007-12-27 07:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by I have his love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what you do. But it sounds like each day you could "not come home" . I think that if you are up front with a woman that you love and that loves you..it is ultimately her choice to make not yours. Bringing a child into it is another story. You shouldnt for sure. There will be somoene out there that will want what time she can have with you and who knows....god willing...you will live a long life. Too bad to be alone dont you think??
2007-12-27 07:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by jslorri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time is just not right for you right now. At least you know you wouldn't make a good husband at this point in your life and at 19, seriously, that is the right choice. You are young - live your life - experience everything you want to and when the time is right you will know it.
2007-12-27 07:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 10:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be alone! You are WAY too young to be thinking about marriage and kids. You're careless and irresponsible, and you would definitely be an unfit parent.
Good choice!!! I don't know what your "dangerous life" consists of, but I'm betting it has more to do with stupidity than danger.
2007-12-27 07:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people around the world,who live as singles all their life;others got married and have family and many children.Also thinking is changing, with the time.It is okay is that you want to live,as a single man.Good question.
2007-12-27 07:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life, you got to live it the way you want. You're only 19 so I'm sure you will change your mind several times over the next several years.
2007-12-27 07:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Emanon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply explain you are not ready to be a husband or father. Explain to the person you goals you want to achieve such as school, employment wise. Your life should always be planned not lived due to someone elses wishes.
2007-12-27 07:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you the same guy who posted like four other questions today that said you were too shy and awkward to meet a girl. GET A LIFE!!
2007-12-27 07:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋