Am I gay REALLY I have a family and love my fiance?

Question

Okay here's the story. I am a father and I have been with my fiance for five years now. We have a kid and I enjoy having sex with her but I am not really attracted to women. The truth is there are very few women I am attracted to and she's pretty much the only one. The issue I am and have been attracted to men a lot, not enough to cheat but I'd check out a man before checking out a women.

So am I really gay? I am seriously into and attracted to my fiance and enjoy or family.

What do I do? HELP ME!!!

Answer 1

It is crucial for you to take care of your child and your fiance.

Sexuality: Forget about the word gay!

I think if you're attracted to your fiancee and love her you should stick with her and concentrate on being a father. Your sexual orientation doesn't matter unless you plan on cheating on her or leaving her for a man, right?

Any who- sexuality is a gradient; a sliding scale some men are exclusively attracted to women but most men aren't their. Everyone else lies somewhere in the middle. Hence Prison sex. NO ONE WILL EVER admit it because of Society. So tuff up and love her- and marry her you hethon!!!

Answer 2

I can see from the start your brain is all skewed.

You are a "wanna be" because it's popular to be gay and heterosexual and have children. It's "DA thang to be these days". Are these poor children getting a bum deal or what.

You are normal you just want to be AC/DC. Get your act together and go be a Daddy not just a father to your child. Start spending lots of time with that child and give the child something to be proud of in his biological father.

Don't embarrass the child and skew his life by having the child to live a life where all he can say among his friend "my old man just liked to get screwed by men and left mother and I out in the cold". Yepers, that's your next move.

You just want an excuse to leave this relationship without taking responsibility. You've been an irresponsible male biological reproducer for five years. So you want to "blame it on your gayness". What a cop out.

C'mon, be a man. You like her, she likes you but go make a commitment and "marry her". How many children do you want to have with your "fiance" before you say O.K. y'all let us get married.

Have you considered the fact that your child is a bastard by definition. Hmmm? How does that grab you. Now don't make it worst by making the child a bastard of a gay father. Grow up! Take responsibility. Show Respect. Need help on understanding the meaning and use of the word Bastard. Go to the link below.

Answer 3

I'm sure you know what the bible says about homosexuality and also how it is perceived. However, if its something that you are determined to do you'll do it anyways....
You can be simply going through a phaze...and/or subconsciously bored with your everyday life and the only way to 'not ' cheat on the person you love with all your heart...'your finance'...you check out men verse females..

If your fiance kiss or sorta cheated with a female would you really count it as cheating or experimenting..???

Also there is a difference between thinking men are attractive and actually wanting to have sex with them....
I'm a female and yes i think other females are gorgeous and have hot bodies...but do i want to actually have sex with them no...not at all.
Dont beat yourself up about this...all of this probably will just go away.

keep in mind though that cheating will destroy your family and that its not worth it.

Answer 4

Nah.... you probably just have high testosterone. Most men are attracted to other men on some level, even though they won't admit it. How else do you explain all that butt slapping during football games, towel snapping in the locker rooms, sneakily looking at each other's junk in the showers and even just the principle of "contact sports"?

I've been married for 12 years, three great kids and a wonderful wife. But she just won't do oral on me, which I love. I met a guy in a bar about 5 years ago, we were both drunk and he talked me into letting him go down on me back at his place. Let me tell you, best bj I ever had. We've remained friends and still get together once in a while and he still gives the best damn bj I've ever had. And he's also into watching football. How much better can that get? I don't consider it cheating because it's not with a woman. I'm not in love with the guy and I don't have to reciprocate, but I have. Does that make me gay??? I don't think so. I see myself as a secure hetero guy that just appreciates a really good bj once in a while during halftime.

Answer 5

I think that before you go get married to this girl, you should decide who you are and what you want. It's not fair you, her or the child if you go into a marriage with the knowledge that you might be attracted to men. Explain to her that you need time to figure things out and explain what you're trying to figure out. Tell her you love her and your family, but you feel it isn't fair to marry her knowing that you may not be able to honor those vows in the future. Then you need to seriously try to figure out what it is you want; for this perhaps you should see a counselor, let the fiance know that you are getting counselling. Make sure it's an open minded counselor and not one who's gonna go all bible thumping on you for thinking you like men.

Good luck with all of this.

Answer 6

If you check out another guy it doesn't mean your gay. You are attracted to your fiance and that's all that matters, you have her and she has you. You two have a family together and that is all that should count. It's okay if u check out another guy, your body is used to her, your fiance, and you know that if you cheat on her with another girl or even check one out she will be mad. So your body has turned to the other sex, males.
Don't stress over it, its normal and there is no need to do anything just relax and calm down its normal. =]
I hope this helped.

Answer 7

People cant help their sexuality. Some people believe that you are born gay. Im not so sure. You need to ask yourself whether you have ALWAYS checked out men before women. There is also the distinct possibility that you could be bisexual.

You need to ask yourself...Can you deal with this and get over it? Id doubt you can and so if indeed you cant, you need to speak to your fiancee about this issue. She will appreciate it in the long run.

Hope this helps.

S

Answer 8

Well dont do anything to risky yet. Ima female and I check out females alot but when I think about intercourse and kissing and ugh it disgusts me. But if you have thoughts and enjoy it you need to really be sure you gay. You may just be fickle with your women and if you like having sex thats a good sign, You may be curious as humans its ok and with the media and hollywood making homosexuality a new trend maybe its intices you but it it somethine LIFE CHANGING So really really THINK. So if this is complete bull in the means of helping you

Answer 9

No, you aren't 'gay' ... you're bisexual with a stronger attraction to 'same sex' than many men, but not enough to make you 'cheat' at this point in your life. I suggest that you and your fiancee sit down and have a LONG TALK about your sexuality, and what that sexuality could 'mean' to EACH OF YOU SEPARATELY in the future. I think that you should stay together, and possibly even marry ... but your fiancee MUST BE AWARE that you 'feelings' could change in the future, so she will be 'prepared' if they do change, and not 'totally surprised.' YOU however are basically 'just fine' ... you're just 'bisexual' and not 'gay' or 'exclusively homosexual.'

Answer 10

NO you are not ! Think. Think of your children. You need to be more spiritual. Think of what will happen to you after you die. How do you know you won't die tomorrow?


You should nurture your wife, respect her, and love her for better or worse. You have made a commitement to a HUMAN BEING. People have feelings.

How would you feel if your wife left you for a woman on a whim? Immaturity perhaps.

You should not fall prey to gay propoganda. People choose to be gay. You are obviously a person who is easily swayed by other people's opinions, you need faith and a religious affiliation.