I found out during the four months we were together he has been lying about seeing his ex girlfriend... i also found out that he has been sleeping with her at the same time.
he was with her for two years, and then got together with me seven months later - and he has always been "intimidated" by me. He really played the game well.... telling me he loves me, how he has never met anyone like me... how he wanted to marry me, how I am perfect for him....
and now that all is said and done i find he has been lying to her, too.. she has no clue i was even dating him for four months... he has told her he loves her so much, and from what I hear, she is spineless... has no backbone... and is crazy about him.
me? I walked.
so.... Can a lying cheat be capable of loving anyone? He doesnt love me, or else he wouldnt be sleeping with her... and he doesnt love her because he was "with" me.
What goes on in a cheaters head? In his warped mind, do you think he ever loved me at all?
2007-12-27 07:22:09 · 55 answers · asked by L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope. An you intimidated him? Yeah...sure..my a*ss.
You had a premontion and dug around and found out what he was doing. The only reason he says you intimidated him is because you figured him out and he isn't used to exposing himself. He's a sneak as well as other things I won't relate here.
You on the other hand deserve a medal. You saw what he was doing and took a stand, made a decision and wrote him out of your life.
You're my hero.
2007-12-27 07:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly, after only 4 months, no I don't think he loved you but probably liked you. Did he care about you, maybe, but not too much if he was still seeing his ex-gf while being with you. This guy obviously has some commitment issues so good thing that you moved on. Although its apparent that you really liked him or else you wouldn't be writing about it. But now you know what signs to look for in a cheat. Take it as a lesson learned. And don't think that whatever he said negatively about her is true because he wanted you to think that he wouldn't have anything to do with her so that he could unknowingly to you. Good luck!
2007-12-27 07:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is no. This is because he lied to not only you but also the ex. So he played you both. But to answer your question, "Can a lying cheat be capable of loving anyone"? Yes, because I once cheated on my wife and we have since worked it out and I love her very much. I thought that she was the reason I was unhappy but now I realize that it was me that caused much of our grief. Once I got counseling (I'm not crazy but just needed to talk to someone that could give me marriage tools) I could see that I was happier and therefore had no reason to look outside my marriage.
2007-12-27 07:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by padresfan76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't even love himself. He's gone so don't worry about things that don't matter like... if he ever really loved you. My guess would be no, but.. so what? You deserve better; go find it.
You did the right thing by kicking him to the curb and sending him back to the other. If she wants him to continue lying and cheating on her that's her problem. However, I wouldn't assume that she is spineless... love is strange and sometimes it makes people weak so that they make bad choices.
Chalk it up to experience, regain control of your life and move on.
2007-12-27 07:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by jbeezz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is love. He loves himself. That's about it.
Sorry about your situation but good thing you found out only 4 months into it, before a marriage, kids ect.
Best of luck to you. as you are better off than the spineless one who will probably never leave him.
2007-12-27 07:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get over him and get on with your life. That man never has loved you (in a relationship way) and never will. I suggest you find someone else. Cheaters are no good in relationships. he just needs to be honest and not overstep the love bounds. I'm sure there are females out there who feel the same way about relationships as he does.
2007-12-27 07:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by imthatgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not care about what could be in the mind of a twit like this. No he never loved you and never will. He will probably never be able to love someone the way love is meant to be.
I'm sorry you had to go through this, be glad you found out after 4 months.....I found out about my ex double-life after 4 years.
2007-12-27 07:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know to be honestly, you can't really force a guy to love you literally. He'll do what he feels like, and hun you're just too precious to be dealing with this and his lame sweet talk. There are so many fishy out there waiting to get picked, you shouldn't waste your time on this one. And maybe you can test if you guys are meant to be, for example let him go and see if he comes back to you, if he doesn't then hey HIS LOSS! if hes sleeping and cheating on you with another person that is like a hell no. sorry hun but truth hurts.
2007-12-27 07:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by sallllyyyyyy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he did, but not the way you wanted him to.
these sad excuses for men love completely with every thing they have, they put you on a pedastal and worship you. you are the one they have been looking and waiting for. and it makes you feel special and loved.
BUT they do the same to each girlfriend. its heartbreaking when they leave, and you think its something you've done.
IT ISN'T.they are just plain sad liars who don't know what love is. and they will all end up sad lying old men.
l'm glad you walked away. it shows your strong no matter how much you were hurting. there are real loving men out there, and your find him.
2007-12-27 07:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by black tulip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes a big ol PLAYER !!!! and he like you said knows how to play the game very well. He is probably gona end up alone and by himself. Anything is possible it just takes alot of work and commitment. He doest love anyone so if he was sleeping with you and her only God knows who else he was sleeping with
2007-12-27 07:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by cutiebabexx420 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋