If you're a regular, you see it here everyday: People that know their sexuality, but are afraid to talk about it, and they turn here for support, who should they come out to, should they come out? How will their family take it, you know these common questions.
This really needs to change, it's 2007 (almost 2008!), and people should feel that they can be themselves. It's ridiculous such a common thing is taboo in today's world, considering how far we've come, just as a generation ago, something like being left handed made you seriously wrong.
I just feel that people need to be open and need to accept themselves, and we need to bring change: because it IS okay to be yourself, and there's NOTHING wrong with who you are.
2007-12-27 06:47:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
True, but it seems like today's society feels that they have to make everyone feel uncomfortable with themselves...
2007-12-27 06:53:37 · update #1
@Wayne: I get what you're saying...
Someone struggling with their sexuality obviously needs to make the personal decision of accepting it or not. I'm saying, in the bigger picture, people shouldn't have to struggle with it: It should just be accepted!
They themselves decide to not accept it, but the pressure of society needs to change.
However, obviously, you can't just decide to change society. But, on an individual level, shouldn't we be able to make others feel comfortable with themselves?
2007-12-27 07:04:50 · update #2
I think the best we can do is tell them that there is nothing wrong with them and that it is okay. When ever possible give them an opportunity to continue to correspond with you personally about their issues. I think a lot of people just need to hear that it is okay to be gay and that God does not hate them. Unfortunatly the people encouraging the most hate are the so-caled "christians" and they tell these insecure people that they are doomed to hell and that their behavior is wrong.
2007-12-27 11:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by teresacmt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that a huge percentage of people in this world are uncomfortable with who they are, and they're gay, straight, bi, lesbians,tansgendered,asexual everything and for many reasons some that seem absolutely unreasonable and ridiculous. I feel uncomfortable with who i am sometimes and its not because I'm uncomfortable being me its how other people react to who i am that makes me uncomfortable i don't know if that makes sense to anyone but that moment someone finds out that you're gay when you have just accepted it and are finally comfortable with who you are and that person looks at you like ur the most disgusting, evil person in existence...all that you thought you were fine with washes away and you feel dirty and wrong and absolutely alone. So dude its not only the people on yahoo answers who need to bring change its everyone in the world who has ever looked at someone who was different with hate and disgust the world needs to wake up and sadly i have given up on that because there will always be people who are in the cave, surrounded by stifling darkness, surrounded by hate for anyone who deviates from the said 'norm' and who refuse to be shaken awake and accept the truth; that everyone has a right to be themself.
2007-12-30 13:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ethan S <3 Da Ben Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every Christian has their own unique relationship with God, you don't have to be like anyone else. Be honest with yourself and God and don't worry. He's not going to hurry you up or push you if you're not ready. I come to this question from the opposite side of the coin than you're on. My husband isn't on the same wavelength as I am. For a while he stopped coming to church altogether and I had to be ok with that. I had been very involved in ministry and eventually let go of my commitments because I couldn't even talk about that aspect of my life anymore. I'm not saying you should ask your husband to do these things for you, but I wanted to relate my story because these things happen. Eventually my husband returned to church, in his own time, I'm only involved on a small scale, and he reserves the right to go only when he really wants to. My best advice is to communicate what your needs are. Hopefully you guys can come to an agreement that you're both happy with! God bless!
2016-04-11 03:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely with what you are saying. In my opinion, to help those who feel afraid to admit their sexuality we need to change the views of society completely. From my own personal experience I know counseling one on one works, but it takes far too long. We need to create a world where sexuality is not an issue. As open individuals who are comfortable with who we are, it is our responsibility to help those who are not by striving, in everything we do, to make the world a more accepting place. That is my own personal goal, and I'll do whatever is necessary to achieve it.
2007-12-27 07:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's not all a comfort issue. Just like any other human being we have to take a good look at our self and be brutally honest.
Only I can love, hate, admire, demean, change and accept me. Then, and only then, your opinion may or may not be solicited.
Accepting ones self is key. Self Esteem
Being open and honest with others is a choice.
Accepting or rejecting ones self based on what others choose to accept or reject is futile.
Work on self takes a lifetime. There's no time to seek outside acceptance.
2007-12-27 07:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by quisp007 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, I don't think there is. The only way we can really do anything is to assure them that everything is okay and that they are normal, human, not an abomination, etc. It's only possible for someone to be comfortable with who they are if they are open to themselves. It is imperative that we help them become comfortable with themselves, but the essential part of self acceptance is just that--self.
2007-12-27 07:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by That Gay Guy for Da Ben Dan 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's not up to us to make others feel comfortable..
I understand what you are trying to say...but I don't look towards others to make me comfortable with whom or what I am...
As far as others trying to make other people feel uncomfortable...well as you, being a regular here...see it...people are always intruding themselves into someone elses life....I'm not trying to be harsh..I enjoyed your question...but I just feel it is up to the indivual to be comfortable with themselves first....
No, I don't think we are responsible to help make others comfortable with who they are....I do agree that people should just be accepted for who they are...but that is not the world in which we live...So very sorry to say.
I think we all would be better to attempt changing the world in which we live than helping one another being comfortable within our own skin...As you have seen there are other teens out there that don't even know what they are yet...and there are people encouraging them to come out of the closet and face the world...That is very , very wrong.
I don't mind talking with someone regarding various things that bother them, but I will not feel that it is my place to make them comfortable..possibly to have a better understanding...but not comfortable.
Enjoyed the conversation..Excellent question...See, this is how to handle differences of opinion...We each debated our point and can still be friendly...Maybe you and I just showed others that it is possible to have differences of opinion and still be friendly towards one another afterwards.
2007-12-27 06:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by Wayne 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Your efforts posting here *are* making a difference, just in little increments. Every pebble you toss into a lake raises the level.
Keep it up, P.Graph - you're a good egg.
2007-12-27 07:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Clint 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who already answered and who have the most thumbs up.....:) This way I spare you a redundant reply and save time as well. Oh...most importantly, I'm not good at long, serious replies unless I get graded and earn a few credits.
2007-12-27 07:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
The problem is that you can't MAKE anyone feel anything. They have to chose it for themselves. The best you can do is be open to people being the way they are.
2007-12-27 06:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by mouse_726 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋