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I want this guy to like me . You seee I made a vey big mistake?
Of having relations with a divorcee 14 yrs older than me. Ever since that night it has been akward between us. Partially bcause we almost had sex, and he lost his erection from the condum he said. .He does not appear interested in hooking up w/ me again. I wonder if thats why? Or he just doesn't like me.However I see he has been talking to other girls. I am so jealous and mad. I want what happend to blow over. I try to be nice to him, but he is a little passive now.
2007-12-27 06:38:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like he has a lot of issues, and needs time to figure out what he wants out of life. I guess he isn't over his divorce yet- emotionally speaking.
Why do you want to pursue a relationship with a man who is obviously not interested in you as you are on him? I'd say forget about him and find someone else.
He sounds like he's got a lot of emotional baggage....Be smart and walk away!
2007-12-27 07:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not what you want to hear.. but it sounds like he's really not into you. It also sounds like he used the "condom" as an excuse to not go any firther with you. I'm assuming that he lost his erection for other reasons.. possibly just a total lack of attraction to you. I'm sorry if that sounds mean, but it is totally possible that the guy just isn't attracted to you, and couldn't "keep it up" for that reason. However, it is also possible that the condom may have had something to do with it (I can't imagine why.. it just sounds like an excuse to me). Either way, he's moved on and is no longer interested in you (that is, if he ever really was to begin with).
My advice? Move on, and stop wasting your time worrying about that guy. If he was into you, he would have made a move by now.. Find someone who actually does want you.
2007-12-27 07:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the poor guy always remembers how humiliated he felt when he was with you. Loosing an erection is pretty much a buzz-kill for a man. It sounds like he's lost interest in pursuing a relationship with you.
But, if you don't want to let him go yet I suggest you try for a light, friendly approach. Let your interests expand to other men so you won't feel so jealous when he talks to other women.
Best of luck!
2007-12-27 06:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you became physical too quickly in the relationship. I say this because you say the two of you feel awkward. That's because you didn't establish a good relationship base first. The fact that he's not calling you and has been seeking out other women indicates that he's not into you that much. Guys are simple. When they're interested, they call and they won't let you go. When they're not interested--no call. It's that simple. Time for you to move one. How about someone within your own decade.
2007-12-27 09:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lost the erection the moment he put on a condom?
I don't think the problem lies with you.
Hey...how do you feel about a 50 year old that can perform with or without a condom? Just curious, thats all.
2007-12-27 06:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him....He just isn't that into you. What guy would turn down sex? He says it from the condom but I bet it is from him having feelings for his ex that he can never stop talking about.
2007-12-27 07:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone.
It seems he was probably either not interested in you that way....or the problem embarrassed him.
It's best to just move on.
2007-12-27 06:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesnt see u guys working.
2007-12-27 06:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WTH are you talking about?
2007-12-27 06:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i need more info, then i will answer
2007-12-27 07:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by panamarandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋