how come I get really good feels like climax when i masterbate or have sexual dreams and I dont get that feeling with husband maybe i dont get very high climax??!! can anything help!
2007-12-27 06:32:13 · 13 answers · asked by Candace Kuviak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he doesn't do it right......
2007-12-27 06:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie. God is in everything we do and all you are doing is honestly assessing how you feel. You have no reason to feel ashamed. It would be a lot easier to stick your head in the sand, pretend it isn't happening and keep living your life unfulfilled. You have chosen the tougher, more sincere path and for that you are a very brave lady. Sex is an important part of a relationship. Anyone who tells you otherwise probably isn't enjoying a happy sex life of their own or they would know. I completely believe it when you say you love your husband, but maybe it's not The Love which should exist between two married people. You can feel deep affection & devotion for someone, but that isn't The Love you want & need. You might think it is honourable to sacrifice your happiness to save your marriage. But your duty towards yourself and the duty towards your marriage are inevitably interlinked: as you said yourself, the fact that you're not happy is making your husband unhappy too. You owe it to him as much as to yourself to change things around. So what to do next? This is tough: I would strongly recommend taking a break from each other. Talk to him about it, make sure he doesn't feel like you're abandoning him, pack a bag, enough for 1 or 2 weeks at least and go stay with family or a close friend if you can. Keep in touch with your husband by phone if need be but try not to see him for that time. It'll be hard, but you really need some time alone to figure out what you want. Don't go back until you have figured out what your heart tells you is right. I hope you will keep showing courage in making bold decisions to turn both your lives around. Best of luck x PS: I recently went through your same situation. After 10 days away from home I knew in my heart I couldn't go back to that life without lying to myself. It's only been a few months since we split up but we're both much happier people than we were before. I'm not saying the same will happen to you but as long as you listen to your heart and keep being honest to yourself & others you will be doing the right thing.
2016-05-27 04:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by karol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You more so found what is good to you! You found what feels good to you in order to climax.When you masturbate, you find out(time after time) what brings you to climax.If your husband is not doing this for you and it seems that things aren't getting better,then you must teach him.You must show him a few things that he can do to bring you to climax as well as him.This takes some time, but the both of you will learn from each other.And remember to have fun with it as well.
2007-12-27 13:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try telling your husband exactly what you would like for him to do. Talking during sex is not only fun but it can also lead to better and stronger climaxes.
2007-12-27 06:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by michael t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pressure is being applied to the wrong areas. get your husband a medical chart. If he still can't figure it out drop me a line. I specialize in problems of this very nature.
2007-12-27 06:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kandis - I recommend you buy the book "The Joy of Sex" and share it with your partner. There's all sorts of great information in there that will help both of you understand how your body works and how to give you more pleasure during sex. Enjoy!!!!
2007-12-27 06:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Twice as Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should start telling your man where you want him to touch. some guys assume that they know what they are doing...not all the time! lead him to the spot and tell him that feels good or to the left or right etc...
2007-12-27 06:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try masturbating with his help, that way not only are you getting pleasure but you are also teaching him how to touch you.
Good luck!
2007-12-27 06:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Chulis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and he need to talk about this and work on it. This isn't a sex ed class, sorry.
2007-12-27 06:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
2007-12-27 06:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋