My guy friend is threatening to put charges on me for this so I'm worried, because I've never been arrested before. I need some advice.
Okay I was tired of people praising others for having kids and then telling me that they could just never see me as being able to financially provide. I felt hurt and insulted. I was also hurt that guys were dissing me. My ultra cute guy friend doesn't want anything to do with me as more than a friend, but I wish he gave me a chance. I don't want to be alone this lifetime, I want to pass my genes on and prove to everyone how good of a parent I can actually be.
I did something very naughty. One weekend a bunch of us slept over and watched movies. The next morning, my best guy friend was in one of the bedrooms, getting it on with a girl he's been meeting up with for sex lately. When he was done, I saw him very quickly leave the room for an instant, wearing a towel, to quick throw out the used condom in the wastebasket right outside the room. I was
2007-12-27 06:27:39 · 13 answers · asked by I Hate my haters 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
...I was on my way to the bathroom and saw him do this(I don't think he saw me). I...carried the wastebasket into the bathroom with me and used a Q-tip to make use of what my guy friend had left behind. I really really wanted to show everyone that I *could* be a good parent. By the end of the month, I realized that my slick move hadn't worked and I was not pregnant. I'd like to say it was the last time I ever did that, but it wasn't. I did this a few more times to a few more of my guy friends, mostly the guy I just told you about.
Almost 2 months ago, I actually got pregnant from it(I was not sexually active at this time). When I told friends, they looked confused and said that they didn't think it was a good idea to hav a kid from a one night stand. I swore that it was not a one night stand, but they kept pushing to know who the father was, since they hadn't seen me date anyone and since I'd been whining a lot about never finding any dates. I finally confided in my female friend,
2007-12-27 06:28:00 · update #1
I told her because I thought she'd think it's cute or funny, and keep it secret, but she went and TOLD my friend!! Now he is very angry and said that he doesn't know if he can be friends with me ever again. He is demanding a paternity test. He threatened to press criminal charges against me...is he able to do that? Is there a law against it?
He told me that he's not ready to have a kid at this point in his life, esp with someone he's not even dating, when he's just started to like this one girl he'd been seeing for the past few months. He said that he doesn't want to be strapped down with child support for something that he didn't even do. I assured him that I'd be fine without child support, but he either doesn't believe me and/or still feels uncomfortable about the whole thing. He claims that if he wanted to be a sperm donor, he would have gone to a professional clinic or lab on his own initiative.
I'm starting to wonder if he'll ever talk to me again. Did I break the law?
2007-12-27 06:28:24 · update #2
You need some serious help, as in mental help. This is very twisted on so many levels it is not funny. I would think that this would be highly illegal or at least you would lose very badly in a civil suit. As for losing your friend, what did you expect? I mean this is a serious thing, having a child. You do realize that he could be held financially liable. I would say that you are looking at fraud charges.
2007-12-27 06:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by JAY O 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As Freethinker mentioned, the Supreme Court has ruled that if you take something from the trash, you are not stealing. Because the other person put it in the trash they have no more right to it or an expectation of privacy regarding it.
I don't really know what other charges you might be brought up on. What you have done is clearly wrong... but wrong is not necessarily the same thing as illegal. I don't think it would be fraud as you have not lied about anything or attempted to obtain financial benefit. Maybe racketeering if you try to get support from the "father".
On a side note, it sounds like you are wanting a baby for all the wrong reasons. To prove you can be a good parent? Come on. Your selfishness and total lack of responsibility so far has shown you are a moron and will probably screw up your kid (PLEASE PROVE ME WRONG). For your sake and the child's, PLEASE seek professional counseling.
I can see where the "father" would be uncomfortable with the situation. I would be too. The fact that he seems to be thinking about supporting the child even though he really had nothing to do with the conception is a positive reflection on his character.
2007-12-27 06:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by Michael C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something isn't right here... it was such an incredible story that I looked at your old posts. Three months ago you posted and said you were 4 weeks pregnant. That would make you 4 months pregnant now instead of 2 months like you wrote above.
If this is totally made up, thank goodness, because it would be a terrible situation. If any of this is true, it sounds like you're an accomplished but insecure person who can't stand for people to think she's not capable of taking care of herself. A little therapy might be a huge help in figuring out how to not worry so much about what other people think and/or to project a more responsible, adult image.
2007-12-27 07:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by libertina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if that is illegal or not, but this seems like a strange idea just to prove that you'd make a good parent. It is exactly this action that makes people question your abilities to become a parent. Why didn't you just go to a sperm bank? Or adopt a kid who needs a home rather than try to make one who's mother is obviously selfish and who would never know their father?
If my mother told me that was the story of how I was conceived I would seriously question her sanity and that would make crazy.
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you seem both immature and selfish. If it is possible for him to press criminal charges , because he should at least be able to press civil charges, they might take the baby away from you.
2007-12-27 06:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by shoeless wonder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's not illegal it is Immoral.
It is probably not illegal because even if you took genetic material from them, you took it out of the trash and you do not have privacy in a trash can.
The sad thing is that you would have no problem getting child support from these guys even if they never had sex with you. The State would put the burden of proof on them.
2007-12-27 06:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by MP US Army 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In many states, your friend can sue you for conversion and intentional infliction of emotional distress.
Your friends were right. You are too immature, dishonest and selfish to be a good parent. I hope you will put this child up for adoption so that it may be raised by two loving parents that want it, instead of an unwilling father and narcissist mother.
2007-12-27 06:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by raichasays 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry for you that the circustances in your life drove you to do this. But you can't think that anyone would be happy with this, tell you parents get counseling because you are on the verge of a gigatntic mess
2007-12-27 06:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by uncle_buck71 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you broke the law, if infinite "stupidness".
I don't know how much of this is true...but if even part of it is true I think that any judge in the world would order you committed so that you may receive psychiatric treatment.
That is definitely NOT normal behavior.
2007-12-27 06:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by powhound 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tricky question, because legally when he threw it away, he gave up his rights to it.... better call a lawyer. Also, that was a TERRIBLE thing that you did. I would certainly never speak to you again.
2007-12-27 06:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Freethinker 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You broke God's law!
2007-12-27 06:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Me 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋