How can i catch my husband cheating can anyone help me?

Question

hi i have been married for 4 years, i think that my husband might be cheating on me, i wanted to know if there is a way to read his e- mails and find out if he has any dateing sits, he has cheated on me in the past, i for gave him because he is my son's father but if i find out that he is again its over, so my question is, is there a way for me to read his e-emails?

Answer 1

check the history in the browser he uses.. If he's a dufus and doesn't cover his tracks when he goes to dating sites, you might find them in the browsing history.. worth a shot.

Answer 2

Well honey when their is a will there is a way. On one hand it is good to find out, but on the other, it just hurts when you get to the bottom of the truth. When you say he has cheated on you in the past, do you mean more than once and with more than one person? Honey if that is the case well I am sorry to tell you that he won't stop. I know what I am telling you cause I am going through that right now. Men (well cheaters) want to have the cake and eat it. They want their side thing, but still the woman at home that cooks, cleans, and does everything for them. Just go on the internet and look for the signs of cheating, it sounds ridiculous, but they are right on. Honey instead of putting yourself through this torture, I know, maybe you should leave him. It is very hard because it's four years of your life and he is your kids dad, but really, is that worth you wondering if he is where he says he is, or doing what he says he is doing? You have to put yourself first. Also, if you forgave him, as hard as it might sound, you never really forgave him if you still have suspicions. Honey it's really up to you and whatever you think might make you feel better. It's either find out that he is cheating on you and hold it inside and continue trying to work it out, or just let it go cause your happiness comes first that way you can take care of your son. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

There are many ways to catch a cheater, they sell computer programs that record every single keystroke on your computer, You can also go to Radio shack and buy something called "a black box" which you plug into any phone jack in the house and will record any outgoing incoming call (You use it along a voice recorder) also try getting a voice activated recorder and put it in his car (where he won't see it) and that way you can hear every single converstaion that occurs in that car, another thing you can do is call your phone company and ask for a detaiuled listing of every single call that left your home and check for repetitive numbers and long calls, His cell phone bill can give you clues as well, check every call and go to www.anywho.com to see who owns that number, if you want to spend a little more you can get a real-live GPS system to see where he goes to at all times, those attach to the car and send signals of a person's location but run for about $500 and $10 a month. Try kepping a log of his coming and goings, cheating men WILL spend unusual amounts of times away, if he minds you checking his cell or gets outraged at your inquiries it could signify he is doing something because if you have nothing to feel guilty about why care what someone else asks? Just be on the lookout and don't let him play you for a fool, need any more ideas? Email me and I will help, got lot's of experience in this matter.

Answer 4

I don't know about reading emails...but you could just try to guess his password.

Other ideas to catch a cheater:

Does he have a cell phone? If you can get to it...check his text messages and outgoing calls. If you have access to the billing statement, you can see phone numbers there. Be suspicious of numbers he calls alot, at the same time of the day or at odd times (during lunch breaks, right before or after work, when you are in bed and he might still be awake).

Also, you can do a google search for his name. Try all variations including known screen names, nicknames, first and last, middle and last, etc. It's really suprising to see what will come up!

Also, try searching the major dating websites using his age/location. Match.com, yahoo personals, myspace, friendster...etc. Most of them you won't need an account to look, just if you want to make contact.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Why bother??

Its wasted energy. If he cheated on you before, and you think he is again, then he probably is, or its just that you are having a hard time trusting him again. Is he giving you reason think he's cheating??

Okay, say you check his email and you find information he's cheating, then what?? You start going through his things, maybe checking his wallet, etc, etc, all wasted energy, and trust me, you start looking around for something, you will definitely find it, its called wishful thinking, or willing something into existence.

Confront your husband, tell him what you are feeling, he will probably tell you no, he is not cheating on you (if he's stupid, he will admit that he is, or he wants to give you a reason to leave, some men are cowards like that)

Bottom line, everything done in darkness will soon come to light. When and if you find out, stay true to your word and leave. You don't need to be with someone who can't stay faithful to you and honor his vows!

Good luck!

Answer 6

Perhaps it would be best not to catch him cheating, but in fact persuade him that he wants you more than any other woman (or man if he's bi-sexual).

Otherwise, the real question is: Are YOU happy in your marriage. Just staying with him because he's your child's father isn't going to bring you personal happiness.

What I see here is that you sense a recurring pattern of infidelity. Either he is just a philanderer who can't stop no matter what, and you will have to accept that, or he cheated a couple of times, got away with it, and figures he can randomly do that despite your objections. Or, finally, he cheats because there's something in your relationship that he feels he's not getting -- love, sex, praise, etc.

But it all boils down to what's important to you emotionally. Some people will tolerate a spouse's affairs. Some marriages are open and both spouses have affairs and make no effort to hide them.

What is your objective? Do you really care if he's seeing someone else or are you just jealous or hurt? If he wasn't seeing someone else would you be happy with him? If not, then catching him cheating isn't going to improve things.

So little to go on here. Mostly its what do YOU want out of your marriage? Are you getting that?

Answer 7

Dont listen to these hippocritical judgmental people...they dont live your life. You do. You have a right to know for sure if he is cheating or not. Thats my view. Its crap to trust someone 100% in this day and age. You have kids to worry about and yourself. Find out for sure - buy spyware and install it on his computer. If its windows based, buy Eblaster. Eblaster worked for me. I suspected a woman might be in the picture because we were not communicating well and he was distant. Eblaster actually helped me find out that my guy was NOT cheating after all. Once I felt comfortable, I uninstalled it from his computer. Our communication improved because the suspicion was alleviated. The software copies all keystrokes and emails you all this info - even email passwords and tells you what sites were visited,how long and when. Its amazing. At first I felt guilty, but then realized that I have too much at stake (house, kids, assets, career..etc) to not know who my guy really is. I have no regrets now and my relationship is better because there is no black cloud. I would do it again if I had to.

Answer 8

Don't raise any suspicious on your side, to keep him with the guards down, it's a matter for him to make the first mistake. Do a search using his email address, you may be surprised on the sites where he has been, same as his name. Like if he is [e-mail] use the entire email address, or just myname and see what a search engine gives you. Yes you can read your emails, but it's kind of complicated. You can buy software somewhere to answer you that question or show you what is being written on that computer.

Answer 9

It sounds to me that you stopped trusting him after the first time he cheated on you. Question.... did you ever ask him if he is cheating on you now ? If so, what was his reaction. Did you believe him? Actually, what did your gut feeling tell you? The reason I asked that question is that we all have these feelings inside that we need to trust more. Forget about reading E-mails, dating websites, etc. If you don't find evidence there, you will continue to search for prove some where else. It will drive you crazy. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. Ask yourself this, what if you do find evidence of him cheating or planning to cheat on you, would you leave him? You really need to have a chat with yourself and re-evaluate your life priorities. Good luck ; )

Answer 10

Catch him by monitoring his PC!!!One way to find out whats happening online is by placing a keylogger on a computer, a keylogger records every single thing that happens on a computer and at times is evidence in a divorce!!!! I had the same problem with my girlfriend about 6 months ago. I bought KeyProwler, which is a very good and inexpensive Keylogger engine and much more. it not only does keylogging, but takes screenshots and emails you logs even when you do not have access to the program! check it out...I like KeyProwler because it is very simple to use and not overly complicated like the other keylogging software. I found out that she was talking to guys online and i got her myspace username and password and i printed it off directly from the program and when she came home i had the evidence right there and i broke it off with her....best decision i have ever made!!!!
here is the address : http://www.keyprowler.com

Answer 11

Maybe sit down with him and have a talk. If you're going to snoop and stuff it doesn't feel good to do that -esp. if you find something. Since you do have a child with him try to focus on what you two can do that's positive for your family. Trust your intuition-you don't want to get stuck in all the negative. Can you forgive the cheating? If so try and talk if not sianara. good luck.