I'm 18 yrs old for about a week now my father has been ganging up on me, he calls me stupid, idiot and that i'll fail in life. i never get n2 trouble and i don't curse at any of my parents. and he says i don't honor him, define honor 4 me please.
2007-12-27 06:17:55 · 28 answers · asked by mott08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honor is a two-way street. It means showing respect or recognizing the value in someone or something. He isn't showing you honor - and he shouldn't expect it by the way he has been treating you.
I don't know you - but I know that he is wrong. Believe in yourself and don't let anybody else tell you who your are and who you aren't.
2007-12-27 06:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Amy B® 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to make sure you haven't changed since you are now 18. If you haven't then maybe your father is experiencing a fear of you leaving home. Maybe he feels if he tells you enough you can't do this whole life thing that you will not want to leave home. A lot of parents feel like their life is no longer meaningful once there children leave home. If you know you are being respectful just take what he is saying with a grain of salt and go into your adult with confidence that you are going to show him and anyone else with doubt that you will succeed. Honor....that can have a wide meaning, I believe honoring your Father and Mother is you doing right by them, being respectful and helping out as much as possible around the house. If you have finished school get a job and show him how responsible you are. If you are still in school and plan on going to college, Study hard and do great that will also show lots of responsibilty. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-12-27 14:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Karen K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WILL its not honor what he is looking for i think how can a son honor his dad if the father does not show him respect and honor back, only because he is your father that does not mean that he can do what ever he wants with you,
in other hand talk to him tell him how you feel what does he expect from you, ask him to define honor for you wait to see what he says then ask him are you doing, what you want from me, a child can not always make a parent happy, is he is treating you like that what honor does he have that he does not even respect the child that came form him,
will with all that said good luck and remember to have honor and respect back, show it actions are better then words.
2007-12-27 14:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by NENA82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - Hs he always kind of put down - or is this behavior all new?
you are 18.., still in school? Are you working? Maybe he really wanted you to go to college - maybe he was living life through you and you are not doing what he thought you would...
Has your father recently gone through a rough time? Sometimes men tke things out on the ones they love when they are hurting inside. Have you talked to your mom about this? Better yet - him when he is in a little bit of a better mood.
Try to catch him off guard - but make sure he is in a good mood - sit down and discuss this with him. It is imprtant to get to the bottom now before the relationship is destroyed for good.
2007-12-27 14:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by chasetwins05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear your having these problems with your dad. It sounds to me like he's under alot of stress. Stress can make even the most even tempered people act out of control. Have you asked him if there is anything you can do to help around the house? Sometimes just having someone in the family offer to help lets them know you care. Also try doing some extra chores for a bit. Sounds to me like maybe he's having some financial difficulties. Men usually bottle their feelings up inside and money problems is a very frequent concern especially around the big holiday's. It's hard but try not to take it personally and when he seems to get back on track try asking him if he'd like to talk about it. You sound like a great son. Hang in there and best of luck.
2007-12-27 14:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime u have to give dads a break. He shouldn't be calling u names but u never really know what he is going through or how he was raised. Be the bigger man and tell him your sorry he feels that way and u still love him even if he did call u a name.Honor means to show respect. Good luck and don't let him or anyone make u feel bad about yourself..
2007-12-27 14:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mott...
I don't think name-calling is ever productive, and when coming from a parent who is supposed to encourage you to do better, I don't believe it ever accomplishes a thing.
You are 18. Maybe it's time you get out of the house. Find a roomie & a decent job, and just do your own thing. You don't need his approval at 18.
You also don't have to believe all the negative things he's saying to you. Parents have to earn your respect, just as you have to earn theirs. If you feel you're being unjustly treated, move out. It's as simple as that.
You are the only one who can mold your life. You can be what you're willing to work hard enough to be. You are responsible for what you do in this life, and when you get right down to it, you're the only one you can depend on. Parents die, friends move, spouses leave, etc. You have to learn to rely on yourself for everything. So go forth and live your life.
Good luck!
2007-12-27 14:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres much your not telling us, I bet your dad could tell us a story or two about you.....!
You are no longer a child and there is now a clash of adults in the home.
By the way Im not too surprised he thinks your an idiot if you class one person as a gang.
2007-12-27 14:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calling you an idiot is never good - but what does he mean you fail to honor him?
Good Luck!!!
2007-12-27 14:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor can mean many different things, but I think "respect", describes the word honor in all aspects
2007-12-27 14:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by maria j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋