We got married when we were 19, were married for 4 years. We got divorced and I moved back to our hometown. We have been talking about getting back together I just dont want to get hurt again!
2007-12-27 06:17:43 · 20 answers · asked by scionsteve2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Neither of us cheated we just grew apart. Working 60+ hours a week opposite shifts. She has found a new BF but tells me that she wants me back. I am thinking about trying again after I get done with school but I am just not sure!! I appreciate all the comments! Thank you so much!!
2007-12-27 09:43:42 · update #1
Well think about why you split up in the first place. Was it something you have settled or would the issue still be a problem.
2007-12-27 06:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by summer c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like anyone else. you were given the warning signs and you chose to ignore them. Love does not conquer all, divorce for a person who has been married for the second time means there is a 50-50 chance that it will work the second time around . She has a lot of issues, and you have made your relationship with her a give and take one, you give and she takes. There is no sharing of anything, not even feelings, or communication. All I can say is you seem to have a lot to give, but, you need to be with someone who is also willing to give. I am talking from experience in everything I am saying. Also remember, there is her side to the story, his side to the story and then the truth. If I were you, I would pull back and stop trying to buy her love and see if she falls in love with you for who you are and not what you can give her.
2016-05-27 03:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exes are exes for good reasons.
While I understand you may both have nice memories, if you got a divorce it was because you weren't happy together.
Unless you both have gone to therapy in order to solve the problems that made you end the marriage the first time, chances are you will go back to the same thing and that would be really dumb, don't you think?
Sometimes we have trouble letting our past behind us; but you should seriously evaluate the reasons that made you part in the first place. Good luck.
2007-12-27 07:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she might have cheated on you. I'm not sure what the situation is, but I believe everyone deserves a second chance and I'm not one who believes in the whole once a cheater always a cheater saying. I believe that people can be truely sorry for there mistakes and can learn from them. If you think that she is, then I say don't give into her to easy but, do, at least, give her one last chance. Good luck to you and your wife. I hope everything works out for the way you both want it to.
2007-12-27 06:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Floridagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on two things, why you broke up and what changed since then. I was told by several consellors that people can change their behavior, but can't change who they are. So people can get off drugs, stop cheating, stop beating you, stop yelling, speak more repectfully, talk more about their feeling, etc. Not to say that it's easy, some may say it's near impossible, but it can happen if people have been through new life experiences and truely want to change. So if it was behavior that caused the break up and you think you guys have truely changed, then go for it. But if it was a core personality issue, then maybe it's best to be friends.
2007-12-27 07:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a way of putting the bad out of their mind and only thinking of the good. Once you are back together, you will remember the bad things that caused you to get a divorce in the first place. Go slow and "Date" first and see how it goes.
2007-12-27 06:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by mnduke62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always very easy to fall back in love with you ex because normally their the ones that know you best.
I would give it another chance if you love her and want to make it work again, but I would just take things very slowly.
Don't move in with her right away, don't get married right away, don't be soo intiment with her as soon as you see her. Things like that, and if you don't do that, things should get better. Good luck!
2007-12-27 06:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by brittany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in our nature to go back to things we are familiar to.Usually when things don't work out the first time they don't the second.You need to look at why u got divorced and if either of u have changed.Has the circumstances chanced? This is what u need to look at.If things haven't changed then what makes u think it would work again? Good luck to u.
2007-12-27 06:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody wants to get hurt. But hopefully, you both learned from your past relationship. If you didn't, then let sleeping dogs lie. Young and dumb the first time, been there I know, just be honest with each other.
2007-12-27 06:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by Scott M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave my marriage another try and it has been wonderful. Whatever went wrong the first time around, don't do it again! Communicate and work things out.
God bless and best wishes!
2007-12-27 06:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋