he stopped looking @ them since we started going out together(something he said won't needed no more) I dont like that type of things. but reacently my husband got fired at his job, one of the reason they gived him was, because he looked at womens pics in netscape,we work it out,he promise no't do anything like that againg, and just couple days ago he was looking on one of those MAXIM magazine @ a friend house saying that's not porn,and tha's is normal once a while cause others married man does! so we all know what's in this f.... magazine....this time I'm want out. what can i do?
2007-12-27 06:14:57 · 12 answers · asked by yeibe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he got fired because he hasn't got the self control to avoid looking at a pair of naked udders during work then you've married an idiot.
Looking at pictures of nude or semi-nude females is harmless. They're only colored pixels of light images that form together to make a picture. You can tell 'em you want to abuse their bodies a thousand different ways and they'll never allow you to, answer you or even acknowledge you because they're just that...a picture.
However your husband is a dolt. So..leave him to oogle pictures/images of broads and go about your life as you see fit.
Some guys are just born losers...you know?
2007-12-27 06:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can leave him right away or you can make his life miserable for a bit (bring hunk magazines home and make sure he sees them around, ignore him, treat him like he treats you, etc.) and then leave him. He obviously has no respect for you so I don't see why you should have respect for him, or even care about what comes out of his mouth. Usually I'd suggest that you "talk it out and solve the problem" but he's clearly an a** and not worth the effort! Remember, emotional blackmail is the game of the weak: you can be the weaker and cry, or challenge yourself and choose how you want the game to end.
2016-05-27 03:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok for a man to look at pictures of nude women. That's pretty normal for most men. The internet is FULL of pics of nude women. Really, there would be hardly any internet if it wasn't for porn. It is a big temptation. But, there is a right place and a wrong place to view it. Work is the wrong place to surf the web for porn. And, in front of your is another wrong place.
Most women find porn pretty immature and gross. And eventually, it dawns on most men, that it is immature and gross too.
I suggest you talk to him honestly about it. Let him know that you understand that is it something he's interested in. But be honest about what you don't like about it (makes me feel insecure about my own body, makes me afraid you might have an affair, makes me worry that our children will see the sites he's visiting, you're worried that he'll get addicted to it...you get the idea)
This does not have to be a relationship breaking issue. I suggest you and your husband try some open and honest communication and see if you can't work out a solution that makes both of you happy. Good luck!
2007-12-27 06:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, some of us never grow out of our adolescent obsessions. You might want to try the nasty approach and tell him that you're not his mother, you're his wife and partner, and if he wants to play with little girls or fantasize about playing with little girls, then let him go move back in with his mom who can cook and do his laundry for him and he can play with all the pretty girls he wants to. Men who make it out of puberty in their minds realize the joy of a lifetime relationship. For me, i look at it not as being stuck having sex with the same person all the time, but having the wild joy of a lovemaking session that lasts a whole lifetime. Imagine that!
2007-12-27 06:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not odd at all for any men to view porn (married or not). The issue is if it's an addiction or, such as your husband's case, it got him fired (what a fool).
If he cannot control himself and feels compelled to view porn (or the equivalent), and would rather view it than spend time with you, he needs counseling. Otherwise, it's a harmless way to satisfy fantasies...humans are visual creatures and men moreso than women. Porn shouldn't be a threat to us (because except in extreme cases, it's not).
A lot of women enjoy reading steamy erotic novels with explicit sex scenes...ya don't hear their men getting upset about that, do ya? (I haven't).
If it's an addiction, get it treated...otherwise, let him have his little hobby. A lot of women enjoy porn also. ☺
2007-12-27 06:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
if it bothers you then he needs to stop. Personally things like that don't bother me its a magazine and it's a computer, its not like he's chasing other women. It's human nature for a guy to look. I'd be worried he was gay if he didnt turn his head at a woman.
If its interfeared with life and work then that is a major problem, go to consuling,
2007-12-27 07:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i'd be so pissed about the reason that he got fired from his job that a maxim magazine would just be gravy
2007-12-27 06:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by mp3 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are breaking your marriage over a stupid magazine. You just don't love him anymore and are looking for a way out..Grow up. And stop being so insecure about yourself..your nex man will also look at the magazines if you don't change your puritan ways!!!
2007-12-27 06:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
it REALLY isnt an issue. Maxim is NOT PORN! it is completely natural for men to have their eyes wander. as long as he isnt chatting with other women and is not cheating, let him be. if you are too aggressive it might send him to someone else.
2007-12-27 06:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Relax, there's nothing wrong with MAXIM or Playboy for that matter. Atleast he's not surfing for porn, relax he's perfectly normal.
2007-12-27 06:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋