rape?.....why?

Question

why ..why! when i was a kid i was raped by 4 different men for so may F**king years. ... please tell me why ? why do people do such things...why could not i be like the rest of the boys, living a happy childhood...? was that too much to ask for?

Answer 1

As the survior of childhood rape and molestation I'm not sure that there is pat answer to that question. I think that adults who molest and rape children aren't able to form relationships with adults so they have realtionships where it's easeir and they dont' have to work as hard. I was raped for the first time when I was nine years old and it has defenilty impacted the rest of my life. That's not counting the other times that it happened. Over my life time I've been raped or molested 7 times 4 of them before the age of 18. I'm sorry that you to were a victuim but you really should talk to someone about it. I know that you can learn to live a fairly good life as I have. I'm now 52 years old and I have three daughter's and a fairly good life. Yes I deal with depression but I dealt with that before the rape at the age of nine. I hope that you get the help that you need. I know that it won't ever go away but you can learn to live with it and use it to help you relate to other's especially children.

Answer 2

It's hard to know why some people use their free will to do such horrible things to others, and taking advantage of innocent children is one of the most horrible out there.
Even if they had their reasons, I doubt that knowing them would help you. They were despicable people looking to victimize someone, and they found a target in you. Why they would do such evil things is beyond our understanding, and in any event it isn't the important issue for you. Your anger is a natural reaction, and healthy in that you've focussed on the appropriate target: those who victimized you.

The past is gone, you can't undo it. All you can work on now is how you deal with the results. The last thing you want is to have more of your life tainted by the after-effects of these evil people, so you need to figure out how to avoid the many traps still in front of you. Being unable to be happy, transferring your anger from them to other innocents, becoming suicidal - there are many risks involved in recovering from such horrible treatment.

You should report the behavior to the police; if these men got away with it, they are probably going to continue victimizing other children, and helping put an end to that, and getting them put into jail, would be a good positive way to put your anger to work. Anger is a powerful emotion that can drive our behavior in many ways; the challenge is to use your anger as a tool, to accomplish ends that you consciously choose, rather than becoming a tool of your anger, damaging people including yourself who don't deserve it.

Answer 3

I'm sorry about it. People are like that. Those men are the ones who had the problem and not you initially. Remember you're not the only one in this world. I must say a person's virginity does not define his whole. What I can tell you is move on with your life. It still has more things to offer you. My best regards.

Answer 4

There is no fairness in life, when you look at it realistically. The fundamental rules to living are terrible, and as humans we have been running away from them for as long as there has been sentient thought. They are a cruel combination of Darwinism ("survival of the fittest"); the necessity of one to suffer so that another may not; the fact that nothing, no matter how normal, is guaranteed; and other laws of life not mentioned due to having lesser relevance. Other factors include the evil and sadistic nature of humanity that causes us to seek the pain of others to satisfy our need for pleasure. Humanity and human society have a plethora of crippling flaws that doom it to an ultimate fate of failure. When, or if, humanity finds intelligent life elsewhere, we will see how noble and righteous they are, and weep at how noble and righteous we as humans aren't.

Answer 5

Don't question yourself. It was there problems, not yours. Don't let your past write your future. There are many questions that cannot get an honest answer. You have the ability now to set aside your downfalls and triumph over the rest of the world. Remember: You cant change the past, but you can certainly write the future. And exactly how you want it to be.

Answer 6

I hate to be the one to tell you but there is no reason for the evil people do. Nothing in life happens for a reason it just happens. Some people are just sick. There are no real answers for why this happened to you. Understand that this was not your fault. And even if you knew why they committed this act would it really bring you any peace? What you really need to do is seek out professional counseling.

Answer 7

Grown men sometimes just dont give a dam about kids they rape, they want to pleasure themselves even if it means destroying ones life. And I'm sorry for what happen to you, I guess I would not know how you fell because it never happened to me, and what people need is to talk to a trust worthy adult because its amazing what they can do

Answer 8

I'm sorry. No one deserves to go through that. I really think you should talk with someone though. http://www.vaonline.org/support.html, has a large list of support organizations. I hope this helps.

Answer 9

im sorry it happins everyday = [ you needa tell someone and now or else its gonna eat you alive get it all out