how can I love and forgive myself????

Question

I've done mistakes,people forgave me but I don't forgive myself.
I feel like I'm 2 creatures,one devilish and one angelic the first dominate the second.I'm in internal conflict and need to separate both of them,how can I be in peace with myself,it really kills me :'(

Answer 1

We all make mistakes in our life. Some people learn from them and others keep repeating the same actions. You are a good person otherwise you would not be troubled by your conscious. Realize that mistakes are lessons and we learn by not repeating the same behaviour over and over. Apologize to the people you have hurt and do some good deeds to even out the karma.
Don't be so hard on yourself. If you had a friend and they had made these mistakes would you judge her harshly. Love yourself, realize you are human and try and do better.

Answer 2

Pinka sweetheart, I have just read this q, i must have missed it before, anyway, everybody makes mistakes, and that is how we learn the most valuable lessons in life. You are still young and the best thing in you is that you are actually having this conflict which means that you don't accept the bad side which sometimes compells you to rebel or do some deeds that are not right. It is true that some people might be hurt from yr actions, and believe me, their forgivness really matters. As for you forgiving yrself, well just try to look at the bright side you won't do the same mistakes again, at least not after all this hurt. One last thing, we have all been through this conflict, it is an age thing and it will pass with time, wallahi everything will be better. Just pray and get closer to Allah swt and surround yrself with happy positive friends who truly love you and everything will be fine ISA.

Answer 3

It's good you haven't/can't forgive yourself that's the only way for you to realize truly what you have done as well it is the only way for you to have an humble approach towards similar situations if others have forgiven take that as your own forgiveness and apply yourself to avoid doing things you know to be wrong. Just no matter what stay focused These are all test to make you into the person you can be.

Answer 4

Well what i can tell you is that everybody makes mistakes and you have 2 choices forgive or dont forgive...its that easy...but on the flip side there is saying u forgive and truely heart-felt meaning it!---But the truth is is that "true heart-felt forgiveness" wether it be to yourself or someone else does NOT make the pain, hurt, mistakes go away and disappear...Think of it this way: our body holds on to memories and incedents in our lives and painful memories to remind us which path NOT to choose when were faced with that decision the next time!

Answer 5

You realize that you are a sinner so you are wise. And now the next step is to tell God you are very sorry and that you need His help to let go and forgive yourself from your mistakes and those made against you. Tell Him that you need Him to save your from your darkness. And turn from your old ways and follow Jesus Christ your shepherd of light.

Answer 6

You can always forgive yourself... expecially when you know deep down you shuld be forgiven of. And your not the only person... the lord will always forgive you, just know that mistakes allways happen and nothings gonna stop that I mean their accidents... Just say to yourself that you will not makes mistakes ...and lmake sure everyone sees that angel in u

Answer 7

The Catholic Church has a process called reconciliation (confession is part of it) that formally allows you to be forgiven for your errors by a priest. Depending on your sins, you will be required to perform penance, and also possibly to make things right, if that is called for. Finally, you must sincerely promise to work hard to avoid falling into these sins again.

I find this process a powerful benefit, allowing me to finally put my sins and errors behind me. I always feel much better after confession and penance. It is also a powerful disincentive to sin, since I know that I will have to confess my failings to my spiritual father. I highly recommend it.

If you find it impossible to commit to the Catholic church, you could look at alternatives such as going to a counselor, but I don't know if they will formally forgive you and help you put your problems behind you.

Every human makes mistakes, and sometimes we find it very difficult to forgive ourselves. God loves us unconditionally and is always willing to forgive us if we are sincerely contrite and willing to work hard to avoid repeating our errors.

Answer 8

You are NOT 2 creatures. You are made in the image of God.
Question for you::
If you had a friend that did what YOU did and they came to YOU for advice, would you tell THEM to forgive THEMSELVES?
?
If YOU would tell YOUR friend to forgive THEMSELVES, then you need to forgive YOURSELF also.
Jesus loves you, whether you
know it or not
like it or not
believe it or not
...
The same forgiveness He has for others, He has for you also.
LET
IT
GO

Answer 9

try to be realistic and rational. things happen. don't let the past destroy you. it's done. we humans tend to let it win us but it will only succeed if we allow it. your life has a lot more to offer so concentrate on the present and look forward to the future with a smile. soon you'll learn to embrace it. you have to forgive yourself coz who else will if you don't? others forgive you because they love you. and you should give them love in return by forgiving yourself. my best regards.

Answer 10

what I do is love my parents and family members and yet hate myself so much, I simply hate me, and I just ignore to forgive myself, I DONT NEED TO LOVE MYSELF OR FORGIVE MYSELF TO LOVE OTHERS.