We've been together for almost a year and I've always known that he wanted to do acting. Hes really good at it and has a lot of other amazing skills. Well just recently I'd say for about the past month hes really been starting to get noticed. He works for a new website kind of like a myspace and is in the promoting area. Hes gotten really close to some important people that can help him get discovered so hes a lot more busy with them trying to get on there good side so they will help him. Hes out more and has less time to hang out with me now since hes always going out with them working or just goofing off. I understand what hes doing and why hes doing it but I cant help but miss him and wish he had more time to be with me. I want to be supportive but I cant help but get upset when he cant see me.
What do I do?
2007-12-27 05:36:35 · 19 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Theater & Acting
Why does getting on their good side exclude you? Are you not old enough to go out with them and help make a good impression? Making a good impression should include not ignoring those you care about. Sounds like you are no longer an important part of this picture or he can't see the bigger picture. He needs to step back and figure out if he wants you there or not and you should sdo the same. Are you happy waiting on the sidelines while he schmoozes these people? It doesn't sound like it. You should be living your own life and not worrying about him. If he's not including youm, then you have better things to do. Don't wait for him. Instead of sitting home by the phone, go out with friends. If yuo meet someone else, great for you. He may actually know you exist and treat you like you should be treated.
So not cool. Just my opinion...
Marianne
2007-12-27 08:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by Marianne D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is why hollywood marriages are such disasters.
When actors work it's 14 hours a day 5 days a week for 10 or 15 weeks on end, then off for several weeks, then back working, then out of work for 2 months if it's TV
If they get a gig in Austrailia and they are not super stars, they have to pay for you to go there and for you to eat there and you stay there for 3 months while they work 14 hours a day 5 or 6 days a week for 3 solid months.
This is life.
Your reward is going to the Emmys in a gown and being in pictures with him.
Your reward, if he makes good money, is a decent lifestyle. If he doesn't make good money a horrible life style.
Your alternative is to get a boy friend who works at a bank or state office from 8-5 every day.
2007-12-27 08:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hm, sounds familiar to me. First off, this will be hard to answer without knowing how old you are; although I'm guessing you're young. Well, one thing I can tell you for sure is that if you guys were really meant to be, all you need to do is give it time, and soon enough you'll be able to move in with each other. Finish school (High School AND college) and let him do his thing. Don't crush him if he's good at it & he loves it. & you should take time to do your things, too. take advantage of this opporunity to pursue your own dreams & learn & enrich your life more, girl! give yourself a little "self-time." I'm telling you, give it some time & you'll be able to live together & then nothing will be in your way because you'll see each other every night & every morning. Unless you alredy live with him--then all there is left is to wait & be patient & suport him & let him know how much you live him. & just stay on track with your own sh*t, you know? i'm sure it'll work out if you're both serious about this. oh, and one more thing. they key to this entire deal is communication. do you know ho he feels about this? ask him. sit him down or call him & talk to him about it. that way, nothing will come off as a surprise to anyone. ohh yeah and another thing that might be helpful is not following him around everywhere before you talk about this. some people don't like that. it may ruin things if you're not careful. just don't let him get too full of himself when he becomes a famous actor, you know? ;] && congrats on the amazingly talnted boyfriend. i have one of those, too. ^_^
2016-05-27 03:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation as you, my girlfriend feels the way you do about my acting career. I can honestly say that the acting business requires so much effort that time needs to be spent on it. Please don't hold your boyfriend back, as you only live once, and this is his life. Also, if you really can't cope with not seeing him often then maybe your relationship should take a break for a few months...maybe a year, so you can get back together if you have more time for each other in the future.
2007-12-27 08:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lord G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being involved with any professional is like this. My wife and I are both professional people who have to take a lot of our free time to work on other things, contacts, and just more work. Doctors, lawyers, it is all the same. It takes time to build a career. You will profit so greatly in the end if you are not selfish now. Not only will you have a guy who is probably making a lot of money, but a guy who is feeling fulfilled and happy, and most of all greatful for a gal who stayed by his side when things were tough.
2007-12-27 05:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by CB 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well see if you could help him out, when he goes to a party or something to meet with important people, you could be at his side being supportive and tell people how nice he is and things like that. Just put up with him for now, i believe it will pay off if he makes it big, and he will make up for lost time with you.
2007-12-27 05:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what you are feeling, one of the best things to do is to talk about your future together and his career,if this is what he wants and he loves you he will make it work, why dont you try going to some parties with him maybe?
At the end of the day you know what is best for your relationship!
Good luck!
2007-12-27 07:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation to be in...... You love someone but u can't hold them back and stop them from doing what they love.... he loves acting and wanna be famous...... of course u can't do nething else but supporting him ...... If he is a good guy, he won't ever forget about u , but if he let fame and money take him away from you , you should just get over him.....
2007-12-27 05:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick by his side it sounds like he cares about you just is busy right now trying to climb up the ladder. Let him know though that you miss spending time with him don't be mean about it just be like I really miss you and your relationship will grow stronger and not sour.
2007-12-27 05:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by ohioguy4jc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His profession is a selfish one. He will need to grovel and stroke egos to make it (and it still may not work). Learn to entertain yourself, delvelop and enjoy your own interest and circle of friends. Be prepared to leave him. He is showing you what is more important to him and it's the limelight. You love him so don't hold him back...but, neither should you suffer in silence.
2007-12-27 05:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋