ll time i have to do everything cook clean and put up with his moaning tele loud machine making noise etc fed up shall i leave him he retires soon have it all time then
2007-12-27 04:51:51 · 45 answers · asked by spurs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, if u are not happy GO, life too short to be unhappy. GOOD LUCK
2007-12-27 04:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by roger k 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like the type of man who has grown so dependant of his wife to do everything for him. You should of nipped that in the bud years ago and made an equal share of the housework. But obviously you didn't otherwise you wouldn't be sending this question out to us. Anyway, You've got two options here. You either leave him for a better life or you talk to him about it and ask him to change his ways. I know your probably thinking "hell i am not talking to that fart he'll go off his head" After years of watching my parents talking about it is probably the best way. Thats if you still love him and still desire to be with him. However if theres no more of that spark in your relationship. Then you can either work at it. Spice it up a little or you could leave... running away from something isn't always the best solution however if your really unhappy and its getting depressing then get out while you still can. Tell him you've had enough of his ways an take a holiday. good luck
2007-12-27 05:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia16125 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Retirement is a good thing for one but usually bad for the other when the other is used to the free time they once had which is now invaded by the out of work retiree.
If you're fed up with it and after 30 years, it's either time to sit down with a financial counselor to see where you stand and what you would need to do financially to live comfortably or just go. If you can't completely afford to go you can get things in place to work towards leaving. If you can go, then after 30 years why not? No point in spending the rest of your life miserable. It's your life, not everyone elses. Might as well be happy :)
Happy New Year!
2007-12-27 04:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dude 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have been married 29 years fed up with being treated like dirt by my wife, I come home from work and all she does is moan. She See's housework as 'everything' and what I do as nothing. (Work). I am retiring soon, should I leave? Or hope things change when I retire?
2007-12-27 05:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by terrysains 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have lasted this long why do you want out now?
It sounds to me like you need a nice long vacation and get of of the daily house crap for like 2 weeks or a month. It appears to me like you have been living the same crap for so long it has become boring and well routine.
Time to tell the hubby you need a vacation your bored and tired and need some relaxation time and some excitement in your life.
Consider this a nice Tropical Cruise or a destination like Jamaica or Fiji.
You need to light the fires again that have made you stick around these last 29yrs. Whoever said marriage is easy you need to work at it to keep it going. Meaning having a nice break once in awhile is important.
2007-12-27 05:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to divorce your husband for moaning? That is the silliest thing I have ever heard of. Marriage is a commitment. Why not talk to your husband and give him positve things like encourgement and hugs. Reassuring things will be alright. You need to communicate with your husband not become distant. Pray together. Marriage is always work, it's never easy. But to divorce for this pity is stupid. Remember your vows. Through think and thin dear. You and your husband need to work as a team. That's the way it should be. Right?
2007-12-27 05:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you work? What do you do everyday? Because the way I see it is that if you are a housewife, then that's your job. If he moans b/c you don't cook or clean or do anything, it's because you should do that. He shouldn't have to come home after busting his azz off to a pig sty b/c you feel like being a piglet. You are his wife and if that's all he expects from you, that's the least you can do. The way I see it that's the price you have to pay to live the life you live. But if you are a hard working woman, screw him. You do just as much as him so he shouldn't be like that with you. You work just as hard as he does and he could put his share in too. But based on what you wrote it seems like your a housewife. I didn't write this to insult you but its the truth.
2007-12-27 05:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well leave then. Start planning now. You only live once and 29 years is a long time. No one can say you didn't try. I got out after a long marriage of almost 24 years. Best thing I ever did.
2007-12-27 04:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Julia H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey you have been with this man for 29 years now just think about that...There are people trying to get to where you are in you marriage(Not being fed up)....I suggest you talk to your husband and express to him how you feel instead of leaving because that may be a decision you may regret.......Good Luck
2007-12-27 05:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To quote Dr. Phil: You teach people how to treat you.
Quit putting up with it. Either he sucks it up, and helps out around the house (especially after he retires), or HE leaves. There is no reason for him to be such an infant.
Get some counseling!! If he won't go, then go alone. You deserve to take care of yourself, and the therapist will give you the tools you need to deal with your lovely husband.
Good luck!!
2007-12-27 04:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by lyndsaym2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has walked out on you, informed you he would not prefer to be married and resides with yet another woman. relatively now, what extra do you would be able to desire to understand? there is not any way their relationship is platonic and you'd be able to desire to realize that it's time to circulate on with your existence and locate some happiness. possibly having the help of your counselor or a help team would make it easier to get via this very perplexing era on your existence. you won't be able to administration what your husband is doing, you are able to in simple terms say no to being taken care of badly and and start up a clean existence with a guy who merits you and could cope with you nicely. good success and much happiness!
2016-11-25 19:42:33 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋