what would you think of someone that constantly makes you feel small everytime you are around them, indirectly telling you that you were not good enough by complimenting others whilst saying nothing pleasing about yourself, such comments may include "so and so doesn't need eyeliner because she has pretty eyes already, so and so is also studying psychology and she is getting top marks etc", although these comments are not directly said to you, It kind of makes you feel small, especially when it is said all the time and especially when the person making these comments hasn't got positive things to say about you. I know what most people are thinking right now "if you feel positive about yourself these comments shouldnt matter" which is true however it would be nice to know what the intentions of the person making these comments were in order to really consider them a friend or enemy.
2007-12-27 04:49:33 · 7 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
if you feel small....you are small..
hold your head high...
change your attitude about yourself, and don't put so much weight to what other say about "so and so". You have to be satisfied with yourself....you don't really need validation from others to succeed.
2007-12-27 04:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The person in question sounds jealous of you and also projecting their own insecurities/ negativities about them self onto you. Do they ever make you feel good when they are around? Doesn't seem so to me. I'd ignore their negative put downs. They are not a true friend. True friends are there for you come rain or shine unconditionally. I would use reverse psychology e.g. eyeliner insult.....saying yes I agree-she's so lucky!!! top marks.....some people just shine out..I believe she has a high IQ and works hard, good on her! The BULLY will soon stop the remarks and back off...good riddance
2007-12-27 13:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the person that makes these comments obviously has issues of their own, although, it is hard for u to not feel bad even though u are confident within yourself when ppl are basically telling u that u ain't ****! my advise to u is to confront the person. pull them to the side and ask what is ur problem with me?! am i not good enough for you?! see what they have to say, and they don't have anything nice to say remember u don't have to please anyone but yourself. and if they are saying these things to u then they cant possibly be your friend because friends don't do that. and if it is someone you are dating, kick them to the curb immediately!!!! even if they are a family member, whoever they are, just know that their problem stems from something that has nothing to do with you. who gives a **** if Becky or whoever doesn't wear eyeliner!!! **** that *****! lol once you find out what their problem is,even if you don't, you determine if you feel like being bothered with them, and if not, leave them alone because they are weighing you down. just remember, I'm too fresh to depressed!!! say it to yourself everyday ;;) good luck
2007-12-27 13:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always consider everybody a friend , infact make them show the knife that you should already be feeling in your back , let them stab you again and again and again , so many times infact that their arm herts , make them stab you where you can see it , make them do it in front of you , if they want you to get the message , make them speak the words ,, thats how you keep a friend ,, make them say it out loud or your just going to be stupid enough to consider them your friend ,, what ever they say bad aboutr you behind your back , is somewhere back there and not in the future , friends will line up to be near you .....
2007-12-27 13:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you ought not to hang around such a person
"he doesn't really 'need' you to be around bacause he already 'knows' that you think he's a "good" person" (sic)
sheesh, we're all human beings and"appreciation-tokens" have the effect of making life bearable
find somebody new .. you don't need that crap
2007-12-27 13:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by atheistforthebirthofjesus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best off to stay clear of this person, if they don't appreciate you, no sense in even wasting your time and energy on this person, to stay away from this person who you speak of and focus on yourself, one of the keys to mental success and happiness is to keep yourself surrounded by only the positive and encouraging.
Keep the black smith who sharpens your sword and fire the one who makes it dull..................................
2007-12-27 13:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by ARTY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will put it as ...."JELOUSY"... "but"... @ the same time they r ..."COMPLIMENTS".. not 2 make "U" feel "SMALL" ex: ".... she has pretty eyes already...." ; "... "she is getting top marks ..." ; ... "U" ..r..."NOT" ... confident about u'r self & "i" do not know "WHY"??? ... please relax & "HAVE" more fun ... enjoy ... what "U" have; be more friendly & accept what they r saying as compliments... give "KISSES" tease "THEM"... etc., etc., etc.,.......[r u realy into psychology?]
2007-12-27 13:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by SANTINEL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋