asking guests directly to give $ towards a large item. However, I know I have seen this done before. Is there a way to do it correctly?
2007-12-27 04:35:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My mom put in the invitation that there is a group gift and anyone interested in contributing can contact her.
EVERYONE invited ended up giving her $$, as well as gifts for me-- It turned out great because I got a gorgeous stroller and carseat that I really wanted but would never have been able to afford.
Everyone thought it was a really good idea and no one thought it was tacky. She included a picture in the invitation of the stroller/carseat that we were getting.
Make sure to give EVERYONE thank you notes, especially those who went in on the group gift! :)
2007-12-27 04:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by carcar 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I had also never heard of throwing your own baby shower as being rude or tacky until I got on Y!A. If you can throw your own Wedding, Birthday Party, etc why wouldn't you want to celebrate your Baby if no one else throws you the party? I think the thought behind it being 'tacky' or 'rude' is if you are solely inviting people to get the gifts. Not to actually celebrate the birth of your infant. But you're right, then a wedding gift is also tacky and rude, lol. Oh well. I plan on being tacky and rude, having a shower/party for each of my pregnancies. Regardless of how far apart or gender (not that I would even know the gender! I like to keep it a surprise). But that's just because in my family we tend to throw a party for any event or occasion and bringing food or a card is all the gift we give (even for Birthdays).
2016-04-11 03:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to do without being tacky. The best way I've seen is to include a line in the invite that says, "So and So's Mom is organizing a group gift, let her know if you'd like to be included." That allows people to contact your mom if they want to contribute or to arrange for their own gift if they would prefer.
ETA:
Or, if the invite already says "So-and-So's Mom is giving a shower for her daughter" you can put a little line at the bottom that says "If you are interested in the group gift, please let Mom know."
2007-12-27 05:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by maegs33 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people RSVP, they usually ask what the mother needs. Your mother could at that time say that she is trying to get everyone to pitch in on one large item. There isn't anything wrong with that. People love to buy for babies, so don't be surprised if you just get a lot of clothes. I was really amazed that I only received ONE toy for the baby at my baby shower... everyone bought clothes--not surprising (except for my friend who had recently had a child and knows that it is better to get something else).
2007-12-27 04:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
include in the invite " X is registered at blah blah, or contact so and so about contributing to a group gift" gives them the option to buy on their own or chip in (or both).
or request gift cards to a certain store where the large item is from.
2007-12-27 04:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by parental unit 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but while this is appropriate for a group at work, your mom should just pony up and buy the big gift herself. It is WAY tacky.
2007-12-27 04:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
why not ask everyone to bring diapers, wipes, etc & create a HUGE gift basket for her to take.
2007-12-27 04:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋