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she is 11 months and into everything but when we say no she stops and smiles then continues to do wrong or if you restrict her she hits you

2007-12-27 03:42:28 · 35 answers · asked by rocketgirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

35 answers

That's the natural nature of we humans.
I am a mother of 10 children. That makes me no expert but it helped me understand human nature. It matured me fast and taught me to teach my babies the right thing to do quickly. They are smarter and wiser today. Your baby understands a lot more than you know. In the womb they can understand. I read to my first born when he was in my womb and he is an avid reader today. You shape your children's mind and behavior because you are their first teacher.
When your baby becomes verbal, one of her favorite words will be "NO" because you have said it to her many times. You will wish you didn't say no to her because she is going to say no to you at the wrong times. I used ugh, ugh more on the second child then I did "no" because the first one wore me out with it.
Love her, have fun and mean business when you know you need to. Your tone in your voice determines authority and your baby knows the difference.

2007-12-27 04:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dee D 6 · 1 0

She does, but she doesn't have the ability to stop herself from doing what she knows is wrong (heck even adults have trouble with this... did you have a third piece of pie at Christmas dinner?)

Also no one likes being told no, not kids or adults. She is frustrated when you restrict her so she tells you that in the only way she knows how.

The best thing to do is to say no, which will hopefully stop her long enough for you distract her. Redirecting or distracting her is the only thing that is really going to work. Also if there are more than 5 things in the room she can reach but can't touch, or you are saying no more than about 5 times an hour then you should probably change the environment. She isn't going to listen if she hears no every minute of every day, and you are just going to go mental saying no all the time.

2007-12-27 03:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

Oh, she gets it alright. She also gets that that adorable little smile of hers is going to distract mommy! You have to be consistent. If not, she will be confused and that is not fair to her. When my little girl was that age she would try to get into things when I cooked dinner because she thought I wasn't looking. I would tell her no firmly and take her away from it and give her a toy that she was allowed to play with. If she continued, I simply put her into the playpen. She would cry and pitch a fit but eventually she understood that no meant no and she stopped. She's just testing her limits. Be firm and consistent. When she hits you take her hands and hold them down and say "No hit". She will figure out what she can and can't do. Good luck!

2007-12-27 03:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sugarkiss 2 · 1 0

Yes she does understand. A lot of parents are lazy and just say no and let it continue. This is a hard stage for you but it is not enough just to say no. You have to get up and remove the little girl from whatever she is doing whilst you are saying no. This may take a lot of repetition but it will be worth it. It is about showing that you are the boss. It isn't cruel. I bet she is lovely. I adore children but my children learned to behave and I do the same thing with my grandchildren. There are no bad children just inadequate parents.

2007-12-27 03:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by resignedtolife 6 · 2 0

I think once you start saying no... she knows! I have a 5 month old and If I'm playing with her and I say nooo when she pulls hair or something she smiles and shakes her head like I did.. and then she actually stops. I'm not sure if she understands the No but she knows the head shake for no!

2007-12-27 04:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Just Another One 3 · 0 0

Be consistent with your "NO'S" don't let the cute smile stop you in your tracks! If she keeps on doing what she is doing after you tell her no then you have to make her stop. After a couple times she will understand that no means no! You better do it now or your going to big trouble on your hands later!!!! When she gets older explain to her why you are saying no. Tell about the danger & what could happen. You'll have a better relationship and she will learn to reason & use common sense on her own much faster!

2007-12-27 03:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 3 1

It sounds like she does understand, from the age of about 9 months if I said the N word to my little girl she woul,d throw herself on the floor and scream, talk about tantrums !!!! If you say no to your baby make sure you follow through and dont let them do what they were doing, I ignore my daughter when she has a tantrum and she soon learnt that she wouldnt get attention and that when mummy says no, she means it !! Good luck

2007-12-27 04:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ktloop 4 · 0 0

Hi my daughter is the same age and will be a year old on 22 january and when i say no she smiles at me and thinks that it is a game but i am convinced that she knows that NO word but she cant control her impulse to touch what ever it is she is not suppose too. Good luck xxx

2007-12-27 09:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by falkirkmum 3 · 0 0

Keep saying "No" with a forceful voice, and distract her from the source of her attention at the time. Be firm & consistent, and she will eventually get the idea. Basically, kids want to please their parents in those early years, and disapproval does sink in, after awhile. Placing her in a playpen or crib is also a good way to keep her sequestered for awhile. I did this with my daughter, until she figured a way out of her confinement. Sometimes that type of confinement is "punishment" enough.

2007-12-27 03:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

My niece is 13 months... we say ""No, No , NO "... and she says "Yes, yes , YES!!! " and keeps doing (with that same little smile )whatever she is doing until we pick her up and move her. Sometimes she hits, too, so we slap her fist gently with two fingers and continue to say NO. It's frustrating but we know she'll eventually get the message. Well...we hope it's soon.

2007-12-27 03:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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