If a man has had many sexual partners he is considered "a player". If a woman has had the same she is considered "a tart".
I am a woman who has had an uncountable amount of sexual partners but am proud to say it. I have always been careful and that's the main thing.
If your a guy answering this, would you be put off by a woman with a large list of previous partners and if so why?
If you a gal answering this, have you lied to your bf or husband about the amount of partners you've had just so that he wasn't put off?
2007-12-27 01:11:52 · 34 answers · asked by Big Boobs McGee 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I feel a little sad for the goody-two-shoes girls who 'save' themselves for the right one.
How are they EVER going to know that they ARE the right guy, if they didn't shop around.
Heck, you wouldn't buy a car without taking it round the block, surely.
This decision is for life!
Everyone you meet brings a little something else to the relationship experience, and if you lack variety in your personal experience how are you ever going to keep someone interested in the cot for the next 40 years, with absolutely no prior experience, no variety, no ideas?
"What would jesus do" aint gonna cut it.
Maybe that's why more christian marriages hit the rocks than do us dirty rotten backsliders?
Think..."What would Paris Hiltin do?" Cos unless you pick a dud, that's what he needs at home.
No way would lots of guys be interested in a girl who is dawky and awkward and inexperienced.
This is an unoffical olympic sport we're talking here, and a lot of guys are not stepping up as someones personal coach, no maam.
Get out there and get some lovin', and forget the names and tags, they're simply put out there by the retentive goodie-two-shoes girls to try and stop other girls from getting some. You won't find too many guys wingeing cos you've got some talent.
Remember those famous words by that hollywood filmstar (Zaa Zaa Gabour?) who made the news when she slapped a cop in the face a few years ago;
"Men are like little fires, darling.
If you don't look after them, they go OUT!"
lol.
Danny.
Late edit:
Woooo, surprise surprise, there's a mark-em-down believer down there right now!
2007-12-27 02:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Danny Dix 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hear what you're saying.But I do NOT necessarily agree with your thoughts. I think that each time you have sex with a different person that if the situation fits and you practice safe sex it is OK. I mean if you're jumping in bed every single night with a different person and you don't really know this person, then there is another name you have earned. IT IS a HO plain and simple. I also think the same applys to a guy. But a guy would in my opinion be a pig. End of story. Over the years I have had my share of partners. And yes, I have just picked up women in bars and gone to bed with them, BUT the location you pick up people also plays a part. People tend to go to certain bars and or clubs. If the club is a dive or drugs or something to this nature then I would NEVER jump into the sack with a woman from a place like this. But a nicer place, I would most likely NOT have a problem with it.
2007-12-27 01:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy.
Still at the age where going out for someone for a year is "a true relationship".
One close friend of mine has had sex, another oral, and all I have done is kissed.
Those two constantly have girlfriends, and it doesn't bother me that much to be honest, and I make it clear that always having a girlfriend is not the best way to live life.
My current girlfriend is more experienced in the number of relationships-wise, so we can joke, but she tells me she loves me so surely the fact she has had more boyfriend than I have had girlfriends becomes irrelevant. I would be more comfortable with someone I was on par with, but at least she can tell me where I go wrong and when I'm doing things the right way... So the way you look on it, either as experience or stupidity, will change how you see having many partners as a good or bad thing.
And I'm spent.
2007-12-27 01:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally find it a huge turn off for a woman to have a huge number of partners. I think sex is something to be shared between people that are close and committed. I have never had a one night stand. I am proud to say I have had 3 partners my entire life, I am 38. All of them were long term relationships, one being my wife. A large list of partners to me screams of a lack of committment. Just bouncing from one thing to the next. I wouldn't want to give it to just anybody. Every time you do it with someone you don't care about it takes a little piece of you. That is the ultimate thing to share with someone. It isn't just a recreational activity. I believe it should be shared with someone that is special to you. On top of everything else, in this day and age of all the diseases out there. Wow, why would you want to do something with someone that you don't know that could potentially kill you! There is no 100% preotection. It just isn't worth the risk.
2007-12-27 01:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
yes I have lied because it is true a friend of mine had the same amount of partners as me and thought he was a god but i was a tart, so since then I never reveal the true amount.
I think all girls do this is why the rule of 3 is there.
Divide the number of partners a guy says he has had by 3 and you have the real number and times it by 3 when a woman tells you
2007-12-27 01:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I've never lied about how many sexual partners I've had. But it's less than 8....which at 24, I don't think is that bad (considering the rates of promiscuity of people my age).
But I that anyone (girl or boy) who has "countless" sexual partners is a turn off. It says something about your personality if you can have indiscriminate casual sex with countless people. Despite feeling "proud" about it, there is some deep seeded issues there. Sorry, but that's my opinion.
2007-12-27 01:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lied to many about how many sex partners I have had. I know this is an area that people will judge you harshly if given the chance and I just can't see defending my sexual behavior that I had when I was a young tart.
2007-12-27 01:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by ShrunkenFro™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope my fiancee and I are very open. We tell each other sex stories that we told our friends when they happened. Openness and honesty. If you think I'm a tramp...bite me I am happy being me and see no reason to lie about it.
About the rule of three: I'v ehad 43 partners in the 7 years I've been having sex. Honest number that I give everyone. I'd be a little insulted if someone thought they were gettin the real number by multiplying that times three.
2007-12-27 01:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than thirty, and less than forty. I don't have a current sexual partner, but if I did, I'd have no problem talking about our past sex lives.
2016-04-11 02:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this question honestly one time, and even with the rule of 3 it was way to many.
I don't ask if a girl has been around or how many guys she's been with, it's the past. But if she's pround or brags about the high number, I figure I won't be the last number on her agenda.
2007-12-27 01:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋