Is it possible she is lying about rape?

Question

A friend of mine claims that she has been raped three times by three different men. But she will throw herself at every man in sight, practically begging them to have sex with her. She is always going on about her breasts, and posts pictures of just her cleavage on facebook etc. She says that by consenting to everyone, she isn't allowing it to happen again. (Although she exhibited this behaviour prior to the last accusation of rape). I am just wondering if this is a genuine response to rape, as other people's experiences seem very different: they get afraid of physical contact etc, and don't want to have sex because it would remind them of their ordeal. She is in her twenties, so it isn't like a victim of child abuse exhibiting sexual behaviour, which I know is common. She has also slept with more than thirty people&a lot of them before the rape accusations. She also said her best friend &father tried to kill themselves last year. I'm wondering if she is incredibly unlucky, or lying?

Answer 1

well it is catch 22 if she has been raped she is crying out for your help and or needs a little love as she is scared to love without being hurt guessing the fact you wont jump in the sack with her and sleep with her for the sake of it or something worse.Also she looks like she wants to be loved but takes them for granted as being center of attention she is lonely inside and does not know how to approach men, maybe if you set up a anonymous group counseling session which you both go to and explain to a neutral crowd and see there response... with her best friend and dad explain it is not her and reassure that also ask if they what to go along as it will be a learning curve for you all

Answer 2

When it comes to someone that tends to be very sexual, it does stem from a lot of issues in there past. She has and will lie to a lot about people about all the things that go on in her life. Maybe she has had sex that she would consider Rape.. but at the same time, If she is not willing ot press charges, and develop a case about it.. then there is no use. Rape is only punishible by the Justice System..

Good luck with your friend.. She seems like a handful

Answer 3

I read about such people. They are confused, because they have a tragic past or present and thus they need some sort of balance that helps them forget about their problems. Sex is no exception, maybe she is so afraid of thinking, or accepting he past, that she just uses sex, talk and other things to numb her emotional pain. Rape, maybe it seamed like rape to her, maybe she wanted it at first but then changed her mind and it was too late.
The thing about her father and best friend, could have happened or she could be lying for attention or because she might be addicted to it, then again it may be true.
Or she is a chronic liar.

Answer 4

I can't speak for your friend but I do believe many people may try to get attention by claiming rape or other things happened to to them . I have known people to lye about all sorts of things to shock others , get sympathy , extra attention , or some are just incapable of being honest. Does your friend ever go to the police about these incidents and get checked at a hospital after the alleged rapes or just claims they happened. Any way she may need a good friend to sit down and find out her real issues or a therapist of some kind . Good Luck!

Answer 5

Rape Victim speaking: I personally have been raped, more than once. Honestly, I never thought I was even the slight bit beautiful until after I was raped for the second time. I always found myself picking at every little detail that I hated about myself. I don't do that anymore. The thought of that man on top of me makes me sick to my stomach, and I still think about him, but he does not always haunt me. I feel beautiful. Surviving is one of the hardest things to live through. But eventually all women learn to embrace the bodies that they are given, even if it's been tainted by a scar or two. I was admitted to four mental hospitals, tried to kill myself 23 times and swallowed 2400 mg of a tranqualizer (a legal overdose is 800mg). I eventually learned that I would not die. My life was spared and I would have to deal with it. Since then, I've also come out of a "near- fatal" wreck without a scratch. Everything around me was crushed, and when the car stopped, my forehead was 6 inches from an 18 wheelers exterior gas tank. I have no fear of death. I feel that the grim reaper is on my side. Sometimes I feel that I am cursed to be a survivor and I will always live to tell of my pain. And I find constant reminders of that pain always around. I love to have sex. Especially when I am tied down or slightly beaten. As disturbing as that probably sounds. In my life, I embrace the things that hurt, because I cannot escape them. I am 17 years old. I feel 80. The worst pain is standing and watching everyone you love fall. I could never say any of this to another person's face. These are my secrets, that only strangers like you will ever know. The only time I ever have a "psychotic episode" is when I say "no" or "stop" and no one listens. Maybe your friend is lying, or maybe she is chosen to be a survivor. You'll know because if you ever do something and she tells you to stop, and you don't, you'll leave her in fear of your life. My boyfriend still tries to handle my swinging fists when I black out. If she is a good friend of yours, she'll tell you eventually. But you'll always think it's a lie, because the pieces are blurry and don't make sense. When you read my words, you see a rape victims mind first hand. If she doesn't live with her pain, it's because she has never been in enough pain to have to face it in the eye. In her mannerisms you can see a victim of survival, her eyes even when they're dry, will forever be crying.

Answer 6

Even if she is in her twenties it still sounds like she is exhibiting that sort of behaviour after abuse. I recall another (married) woman years ago who told me she had been pack-raped. Her counsellor encouraged her to be upfront and what appeared to me to be "forward." She would seem to confront her fears and approach someone she was interested in first, not waiting for others to approach her. This was I believe an attempt to empower her, and help her regain her confidence. She was a nervous person too. I found it confusing (I was young) but I believed her.

Answer 7

She needs help. She sounds like she's depressed.

To answer your question, it can go either way after a woman is raped. They either become seclusive and stay away from all men or they can become promiscuous and put themselves out there in order to control the situation.

Answer 8

tough call.

most porn is people replaying or trying to gain some understanding of something that has happened to them in teh past.

in her case does not sound liek this though -
sounds liek she wants the attention and then gets scared that she might had some involvement so she blames it on being raped - not realizing how far a guy will if givien the opportuinituy.

Answer 9

There is this procedure one must go through to test if one has really been raped. I suggest your friend goes through with this procedure. They'll be able to tell if she was raped because she'd have this huge rash or scar or whatever around her thing.

Oh, and no offense to your friend, but if she wants to stop being raped, if this was actually the case, I suggest she start being a little more modest and a lot less loose.

Answer 10

In the good 'ol days of colonial America, a woman would have been put in the stocks and then forced to wear a scarlet letter, A for Adultress, W for Whore, B for BJ, BS for Butt sex, etc..

My guess is that she was never raped, and if she lived in colonial America, say around 1620, she would have had the whole damn alphabet sewn to her clothes.