I'm a 13 year old girl. I moved house last Easter, and since then have been self harming. I Have friends at school, and i do very well. But i hate myself. Whatever happens to me, i put a negative slant on it. A Teacher at school knows, and i hate her, so i told my old form tutor (who no longer works at the school, by his own choice) So i told him, and my boyfriend. The teacher at school has given up on me i think. So on boxing day, out of school, i arranged to meet this teacher (who i have aboslutely no romantic feelings about) with my bf. So i met him, and he took us in his car to his new place of work. Is that normal? Anyway, we are texting a lot, and hes started signing everything with love, and telling me how beautiful i am. Anyway, i need help to stop self harming,m anybody got any ideas? I Hate myself, and my life. The scars on my arm are starting to open up, and green stuff is coming out of them. None of my family know. Please help me?
2007-12-26 23:37:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Firstly, well done for telling us what you have been doing and admitting you need help. Thats the hardest part over.
Secondly, what this teacher is doing is WRONG.
He should not be texting you and he should not be taking advantage of you at such a vulnerable time in your life.
Please, you need to tell someone within your family. You need help, partly for the scars, (which sound like they are infected, so you will need som medical attention to avoid contracting something serious like blood poisoning) and also some counselling to help you stop doing this to yourself.
At the very least call Childline on 0800 11 11 and talk to someone there, please.
Is there noone in your family who you can confide in? One of your parents or another close relative? You do need help but I feel it will be difficult for you to do this alone.
The first thing you need to do is to get some medical attention for those infected cuts, which means going to the doctor. Be honest with your doctor and tell him/her what you have been doing and that you want help to stop. He/she should be able to refer you to a counsellor.
Please do not reply to this teacher's texts. Delete his number and do not speak to him again. And tell someone, please. You've taken the first step by telling us here today. All you need to do now is take the next step on the road to getting help.
Wishing you all the best, hunny. xxx
2007-12-26 23:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok well as for the scars i think you may have an infection and self harming is pretty bad. There is no reason to hate yourself you are obviously a nice caring person since you took the time to write this and trust other people to help you ;]
I think you really need to tell you parents, but if you cant face it then tell a childline, but not one that you ring if your getting abused by other peple, just ring a normal chat line that can help you with your problems, also as for this teacher that used to work at the school, he is either trying to help you out and make you feel better about yourself by calling you beautiful, or he is starting to fall for someone alout younger wich is quite dangerous, so i think you may have to stgop the txt's ;]. I am also 13 and as peopl say if you harm yourself your emo (wich isnt true becuase im emo and do not cut myself) then i advice you not to let to many people no becuase you might get picked on, but trust me, you have no reason to hate yourself and please please tell someone that can help =]
x Hope i helped you, From kelz ;]
2007-12-29 19:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should get yourself an appointment with your own GP (Doctor). Get him to have a look at your arms so that he can give you some antibiotics to help with the healing. Go to him on your own and while you are there speak to him about the problems you have. He will then be able to advise you on the best action to take.
Take care and Best Wishes for the New Year
2007-12-27 07:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You absolutely do need serious, urgent help.
Your cuts are infected. Please tell mom and go to the doctor. Tell the doctor that you did this to yourself and that you'd like a referral to a psychiatrist. They can give you meds and therapy to help you feel better.
As for your teacher, show your mom the text messages. That man is very dangerous and needs to be stopped before he hurts you or another girl.
Good luck. You are way too young to have to deal with this all alone. Tell mom.
2007-12-27 07:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Shana B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its probably with the people u hang out with or it could just be u.u mihght have had a bad time growning up.but its not up to the teacher to help u.its up to u to change the way u act and treat urself.i kinda went threw the same stuff and im 13 to but its just that thats the way we r goin to act sumtimes and im still tryin to use self control on myself and it kinda works.and about ur arm i have friends that o that and its not good for urself and its not gonna be good wen ur parents find out but if its gettin that bad than u need to tell them cauz it can get alot worse and it will hurt really bad to
2007-12-27 13:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not good, the people who care about you the most could and should get you some care for this issue, there maybe underlying reasons for this behavior it's important that you get into a support group for this disorder, and yes this is a disorder, please check with your local health department for resources such as counseling and treatment, it's an emotional and mental health issue that is very treatable, others who might be able to help your school nurse and it's important that you talk to your parents about this problem. be open about what you are feeling. good luck
2007-12-27 08:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by anthony b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you need somebody to talk to first so give childline a call they have people who can help
your other option si go and see your gp and ask them to refer you
good luck
2007-12-27 07:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have a serious infection,blood poisoning if theres green stuff oozing out,go straight to a&e and they will refer you to a psychiatrist,good luck you need to tell your family
2007-12-27 07:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When the broken hearted people living in the world agree,
there will be an answer, let it be.
2007-12-27 07:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Vinh 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋