Helo I'm from Australia! there is a girl with whom i've been friends (really really really good friends) for more than years now. I see her as a sister n she sees me as a brother but in fact i love her so much! Realy love her more than anything else!!
However I'm afraid to lose her if I should admit my love!!
Hopeless case it seems!
I'll understand if there is no answer, I'll keep it deep down myself!
Ps: But if u have a really good advice please pass it to me
Thxs in advance
2007-12-26 23:14:34 · 13 answers · asked by casseydark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her...if u wont u will regret w/o knowing whats really ur stand.and ull asking ur whole life..WHAT IF?
2007-12-27 00:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by light girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one. You'll have to make sure you don't come across too strong which will be difficult. Try to be nonchalant & cool about it and ask her if she's interested in anyone to get the topic started. You might find out more than you wanted to know! Also ask her what she thinks of friends dating and if she's ever experienced a situation like that. She may ask you the same questions. You probably should be indirect at first. Perhaps you could describe the type of person you'd go for and then, jokingly (or not) say, "Someone like you!" I wouldn't advise you to start gushing all over her by professing your love to her. Take it slow. If she only sees you as a friend it will freak her out a bit and her rejection might really hurt you. But she may be open to the idea as long as you take it slow, I mean really, really slow. Just keep being there for her and showing her in little ways that you care. You may find that she'll come around. If she doesn't, then you'll still have her friendship and that will be better than nothing! All the best to you!
2007-12-27 07:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you first need to determine how she feels about you. You say she sees you as a brother, that to me is a red flag indicating she honestly has no interest in starting a romantic relationship with you, but I could be wrong.
If you are open with her, and tell her you love her, you risk loosing the friendship because she might feel akward around you knowing that you are in love with her.
Has she ever talked to you about other guys and past relationships? If so it might just be that she sees you as just a friend.
My advice to you would be to somehow in a conversation bring up a question similar to " Do you, or could you ever wonder what it would be like if we were dating?" then gauge her response.
If she responds by saying, " No where too much like brother and sister" or anything remotely close to the idea of being related or close friends, than im afraid there is no chance and are destined to remain as friends.
2007-12-27 07:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by p4nonc4bron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should let her know how u feel except not so directly at first. U should flirt with her and make her understand using hints that u think of her as more than a friend and see if she returns the acts. If she seems to be clueless, then try actually telling her that she's more than a sister to u. But ask urself if ur willing to risk ur friendship first. Good luck!!
2007-12-27 07:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly man don't come out and say i love you right away. Try seeing if shes interested in a relationship first then about a or two into the relationship ask her how she really feels about you and then throw it on her. You might be out of luck though because if you have ben friends for that long she probably wont want to jepordize that. Remember to take it slow or you will come off as obsessive or creepy.
2007-12-27 07:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by foolshouse73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not good for you to keep it bottled up inside yourself. It can eat away at you, and torment you to the point of you possibly becoming resentful, because of being afraid to open up and telling her your true feelings - - - and those resentful feelings could possibly even ruin the relationship - - - either way, what it boils down to is>> if you open up or if you don't open up, you could possibly lose her.
That brings you to this conclusion - - - you can gain freedom from the torment by telling her, and hopefully gain her respect because of your honesty with her.
Or - - - you can lose her, due to the affect that you may have on her, because of the resentful torment, or lose her, due to her not wanting more than friendship.
Your choice, your decision, the results depend on what is more important to you. I hope things work out great for you both. God bless you, and I hope life treats you kind.
~Moonpie~
2007-12-27 07:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you better talk to her about your feelings coz it is truly romantic , but accept the consequences or risk between you and your friendship. Anyhow, just go for it maybe she have a feelings for you too, so who knows if you are not going to try right? All the best!
2007-12-27 07:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by hottstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her tell her what you feel. Study it first before you tell her. If you observed that she doesn't like you, don't tell her because you might loose her. But if she feels the same way, go for it!
2007-12-27 07:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by Katrina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you see her more than a friend, and if she'd be willing to give things a try.
2007-12-27 07:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Monica. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be good friends for ever.... coz You know that u would loose her if you admit.... and also that you know that she treats you as brother....
Why risk dude.....
2007-12-27 07:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Pavan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋