Are women really just as visual or more so than men when looking for a partner?

Question

I was in a club sat night and am looking for a girlfriend. I dressed smart and tryed chatting to a couple of women but they seem to just want me to go away all the time. Im not great - looking but not ugly. im a bit overweight and balding. Then my mate who looks like a model had this girl come over to him and say 'my friend wants you to talk to her' He didnt do ANYTHING! He went over sat by her and was talking for about 30 seconds and then they just started kissing, he slid his hand up her top and stayed there all night. I was soo jealous she was gorgeous. He told me today they are going on a date after xmas! I was left on my own then and tried dancing with women but they are so cold to me, i mean i think i can tell they dont like me. I sometimes think should i just go for a kiss and get slapped but i dont want to be embarassed or make her feel awkward! I have a good personality but have been feeling down lately and lonely. I get v.drunk sometime do women hate this? im 25 but look30!!

Answer 1

Females are even more shallow than males, despite what they say.

Answer 2

Yes. Unfortunately women often treat men the same way as men treat women. Think about the way you think about women - its probably quite similar to how women think about you.

I'm sure you size up a woman thinking she is a bit short/ fat/ bad skin etc. Well the truth is women do the same.

I would suggest you go to the gym and get yourself fit. I consider myself a nice girl but i still judge a guy and wouldnt want to hang out with a guy i thought was ugly.

Take a long hard look in the mirror and be honest. I dont believe anyone is without hope. You may need to join a gym and watch what you eat a bit more. Is that harsh? Well we women have to go through it every day.

Have you seen shallow hal? The world is a superficial place - it just is. Dont be a hypocrit - if you are going to judge women on their looks be prepared for them to do the same.

Answer 3

Girls are extremely visual and shallow. I fancy myself a very flashy dresser. I mean when Im at a club and wearing real nice clothes and colors that guys dont usually wear and that always get me noticed.

However your approach may be your flaw. You need to approach women who are of your caliber, I mean you need to evaluate yourself and then look around and talk to someone who is on your level. That will greatly increase your chances. Unless you are filthy rich, or have supermodel looks, than you will never be that guy who has that smoking hot girl on your arm. Hate to say it, but thats reality.

Women will always make an exception with looks as long as there is plenty of money in your pockets, also dont try the kissing thing, it will only get you thrown out and possibly beat up.

find someone more like you and you will see that things are so much easier

Answer 4

Hi

Ok. Girls are wayy less "visual" when it comes to meeting a partner...you want proof? You look around next time your out, at the MILLIONS of attractive/hot girls dating loser/ugly guys.
Girls generally feel sorry for the less-attractive guys, therefore date them, because they know theyll be treated right and the guy will feel "lucky" to have her.

So now thats out of the way!

I think your problem is that your going for the wrong type of woman. Let me guess, the girls you were chatting up were gorgeous girls. Aka: you had your hopes set high, and they rejected you.
I've got a theory that only really hot girls will be mean enough that they'll act cold or reject a guy.

If I were you, I'd set my standards a bit lower. See where that gets you.

If you want girls to stop being so "visual" maybe you've got to meet them half way...

Answer 5

man alot of us have your problem, girls are all like that in the clubs, they will only notice the model type guys because they are shallow as hell.
clubs are normally just a place for people to shall we call it mate lol and are all very shallow, it is a very critical place on looks and stuff like that.
just be happy that you are single guy mate because it is great, this year i got a freaking ps3 all to myself that just i was aloud to play.
never and i mean never look for a girlfriend as that is a big turnoff to girls as it makes you look desperate and just enjoy your life being a singleton dude.
your friend may be going on a date but hey if he asks you to come along they might introduce you to some of her friends so its not all that bad.

Answer 6

probably more than they'll admit..

but so much has to do with your confidence, etc.