I just started dating this really great guy, we have both are head over heels, we can't get enough of each other. We decided to only date each other, he told me im his girlfriend. Him and his ex still talk which is fine but she found out about me and flipped out, so he took down everything he said about me in his myspace profile and changed his relationship status to swinger. He told me he only talks to her because she brings him customers for his business he does on the side, otherwise he would tell her to f off.....i dont know why but for some reason this really bothers me, its like he listens to what she says and im not good enough for people to know about me. It's not that I don't want them to speak its just he doesn't like her but he lets her get to him. What should i do? am i over reacting?
2007-12-26 22:48:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he told everyone about me, but when he takes his stuff on his myspace down so he wont have to listen to her that makes me feel like she is in control, i dont want to leave him i just don't know how to tell him that this bugs me....he otherwise treats me like a queen, i have never had such a good boyfriend.
2007-12-26 23:10:04 · update #1
i dont think u're overreacting. I think you should tell him how you feel and if he continues that way then it means he's still really into his ex and you should probably bolt for someone who wants you and only you.
2007-12-26 22:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by angelface 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope - you are not overreacting. Set down some rules. She is his EX for a reason. Being the EX she no longer has a say in his personal life. As for his business, I think he needs to find another way to attract customers. If he doesn't think enough of you to be open and honest with everyone then he doesn't deserve you. Get out and cut your losses. You will eventually find someone who knows how to treat you right. You need a man - not a wimp. So what if it takes a while to find that special someone? You do NOT need a man to define who you are!
2007-12-26 22:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend's ex is his current.
She brings the meat for his life which means you are low on the totem pole. You just started dating and you're head over hills already??? That is your first issue. What do you really know about this guy. Take the focus off what you think you can't enough of and truly start to find out who he is. Do that and you'll see what's up for real.
You're not over reacting but you're not taking the right type of actions either. Get your emotions out of the way and start using your head and your eyes and you'll see what you need to do.
2007-12-26 22:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
See dear i think he is not ready for a relationship with you right now because he still has his ex with him and still listen to her and using her for his business who know tommorow he can do the same thing with you also if you get him customers..by the way what is his business .....i would request you to leave him and look for someone else because this person mind is something like a business man...........well it depend upon you to leave him or not just pray to god and he will help you out to come out of your problems....
2007-12-26 23:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do she have his password? He needs to pick, you are not over reacting. You don't have to put up with this. The only reason a guy should still talk to someone acting like this is if they have a kid together. He should have more respect for you.
2007-12-26 22:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by luv_doesnt_hurt_lies_do 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rebounds are difficult, and the fact that he needs her to further his business is a bit of a problem. My suggestion is move on, coz in any new relationship you want it to be about you two not a third person.
2007-12-26 23:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Men are good too...... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No ur not i would be pissed. i think he still has feelings for his ex i mean if he calls you his gf and the next day he puts swinger, then you should relize he is playing games with u and you shouldnt fall for him
2007-12-26 22:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do women let themselves be trampled on? If the relationship isnt EVERYTHING that you want it to be...LEAVE!!!
you are the valuable part of the equation here...
he is expendable...find someone who recognizes how lucky they are to be with you.
2007-12-26 22:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowerpinwheel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not over-reacting. i think he might still have feelings for her or it could be he really is trying to help his business. i really don't know what you should do, but try to talk to him and tell him how you feel.
2007-12-26 22:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should put some pressure on him just like his ex did , he will change since he is a swinger
2007-12-26 22:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋