(...The "message question" I get from ya'll is..."Why can't us guys be the way we were when we first met you...Sexy, horny, respectful, and lovey dovey all the time?")
Am I right about that? Is "That" what you wonder about? Or do you know what I know...that the "courtship intensity" we feel for each other can never "fully" be "recaptured," because...
Nature made us all "really intense" when we first meet...the "newness" of the whole thing is part of what makes the "courtship times" so "intense."
Anybody relate to what I'm saying...? (and I'm not saying that it doesn't get better, or that we can't make it better...what I'm saying is...the "courtship phase" of a relationship is like going to college...once you "graduate" with a college degree...
...you ever want to go back to "kindergarten college" again...)
2007-12-26 22:47:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
"Moonbelle?!?
If "stooge" is the kinda' guy I am...
That "3rd Stage" you mentioned doesn't happen...
But let's face it...males AND females are guilty of that...
And you and I may be the "exception to the rule," but...
People like us are few and far between...
Good call...I'm glad I'm not "alone" in the universe feeling that "feeling..."
2007-12-26 23:30:56 · update #1
Thank you, Ompelle...
In couldn't have said it better myself...
(Thanks for editing support...I truly appreciate your "coddling" me...hee hee...but as "Marguarite" so wisely said...
...everybody (even tough guys) need "coddling" as comfort, from time to time...so...thanks for "coddling" me...ho ho ho...
2007-12-27 01:46:20 · update #2
The truth about women:
Whenyou figure this one out you'llbe a millionaire overnight ---either that or you'll be assassinated.
The truest thing I've ever heard is that men want the woman o stay the way they were when you met us and women want men to change into the man we think they should be.
I agree with what you're saying but I think you're over generalizing. Like the sinniest angel above....we mature alot and realize that relationships and what love is changes as we mature. But rest assured, men and women do not mature at the same rate. So have patience if you beat us there and give us some special treatment every now and then - daily life has a way of sucking the "sexy" right out from under us. We need help getting that feeling back. And we promise to make you feel like superman and our hero every once in a while, too.
2007-12-27 03:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Greywolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't. Personally, I don't like lovey-dovey, ALL the time. I like the comfort phase, when you can be together and not have to expect anything... not expect that he has a whole evening planned out... and not worry that he's expecting something in return, aside from both of us having a good time. Intensity can be exhausting and appear forced... I might kill a man who didn't relax... and then WONDER what the hell he's hiding behind the extremity.
You often refer to nature and instinct... it's everywhere in nature that males feel the need to be flashy and "over the top" or "show off" when courting, to attract a female... if a woman EXPECTS that all the time or doesn't know that relationship dynamics change over time, then they're either fooling themselves... or needy and high-maintenance.
It does get better with time... if both of you are moving at relatively the same pace. If you're not... that's when problems arise... and it will probably end badly along with thousands of dollars in therapy bills.
2007-12-27 00:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women realize lots of things that girls don't. Sometimes men get comfortable a lot faster than we expect and it takes us by surprise. This is when communication is most important. If the communication is not open or available some of us experience doubts.
A relationship cannot move to the next level if you stay at the courtship-intensity phase
2007-12-27 03:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a genius!!! That is the question that i've had in my head all my life! According to my crappy relationship experiences, i have indeed observed a behavioral pattern. Guys would be in the relationship's:
1st year: Totally charming, romantic, respectful and accommodative.
2nd year: Sometimes romantic (special occasions only) and accommodative.
3rd year: None of the above. Anymore...and never again.
2007-12-26 23:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Dickinsonian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the person above. try putting this question in the dating category, am sure that you'd get more answers there
2007-12-26 22:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
your question is too long...people get bored reading it before theyre finished.
2007-12-26 22:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by golden_dragonfly 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋