He is six years old and we put a stop to him sleeping with us when he was about three. In the last six months or so he has started sneeking into our bed. When I asked him why he says that it is warm and comfortable in our bed. It started out once a week to every night. I put him back in his bed and sometimes he stays and sometimes he trys all night long. Help!!!
2007-12-26 22:33:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My little one has never been a co-sleeper but at age 18 months I swapped up into a normal bed. She was fine about the transition but one time she got sick so I allowed her to sleep with me. She decided she liked it and kept trying to come back each night. I laid down on her bed for a while to encourage her to sleep there and jeezus...that bed was really uncomfortable!
I bought her a new thick woollen underlay, a Dora quilt, top of the range soft pillow, with Dora pillow slip (she is crazy about that)...and no more night visits...for a while. When she does, I give her a glass of milk in case she's hungry, change her bum and return her to bed...saying Dora is lonely. She sleeps easily now.
So...check his bed for comfort and buy a new quilt etc that he chooses himself (as he's 6). No entertainment or CHAT. Then...glass of milk and keep returning him to his own bed. You just need to be consistent, they get bored eventually of wandering around in the dark and making a fuss when they feel comfy and the rules are clear.
And a nasty thing you could do...heeheehee...is become a very bad sleeper....fart, burp, snore loudly, "talk" in your sleep, roll over on him, "accidently" flop your hand in his face...make it so he cant abide sleeping with you because HE cant get any sleep.....and try not to giggle. THIS works a treat....my little one finally gave up and shouted...mummy...own bed! (she wanted some peace LOL).
2007-12-26 23:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you need to be firm and put him back in his own bed. It may be hard and take some time for him to get back into routine, but, it can't be easy for you to function during the day when your sleep is being disturbed every night. It's in your sons best interest as well as your own for you to get a good nights sleep. I have 3 daughters and they have all done this sort of thing at one point or another, but you don't do your kids any favours by not teaching them how to sleep by themselves.
2007-12-27 07:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by ozstaceylou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask what in his room is disturbing him. Maybe it's the set up (fung shui it!). Maybe it's the creaking coming from the window. Maybe it's a ghost. lol. See what he would like to have in his room to make him feel more comfortable sleeping in there.
Maybe your bed is more comfortable. Buy him a different bed. My mom bought my nephew an orthopedic type bed. Wrong Choice. It's hard and not good for his jumping. So he sleeps with me or his mom some days not alot though. He's 4 and likes his independence. lol.
2007-12-27 06:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Short Skirts and High Heels 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't do any harm - so why worry? Your son starts off in his own bed, and perhaps he does feel cold or lonely in the night. It must seem most unfair t him that you get to sleep with his daddy and he has to sleep alone.
In time he'll grow out of it, but much the best thing is to ignore it. If he's waking you up when he climbs in, ask him to be quieter because you want to sleep.
2007-12-27 06:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kukana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down and let him know that he can't sleep with you. I know how kids are I have 2 girls and they where the same way untill they where 3yrs. But try a night light and see how that works. I got my girls some and they where alright afterwards. No more wanting to sleep with mommy! try it it may work for you too.
2007-12-27 06:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sheron81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is too cool in his room you might consider getting a heated bed pad. I got one and it is lovely. As others have said if there is something aobut his room that is disturbing him, fix it. Have there been changes recently that would make him insecure? fighting, financial troubles, new people around him? Any of these things could be making him feel insecure and wanting more mommy cuddles.
2007-12-27 06:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by mocristy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what you are doing. be consistent with him. youll be tired for like the first week. once you notice him in the bed, take him right back to his bed. my brother did this and my mom just kept taking him back didnt even let him get in but he stopped like after a week. he would cry and scream and she would have to put him back more than once a night but it did stop. so just be consistent.
2007-12-27 06:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by mommy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats what im going through right now. you will just have to keep firm and the child will try everything to not sleep in thier room. mine has even told me that i hate him. but i know that this is for the best. but its hard
2007-12-27 14:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by rockgirl_06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down and stop this behavior, before the kd wants to make it a permanent arrangement.
2007-12-27 06:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would tend to agree with mocristy's answer, your son started sneaking back to your room 6 months ago, that's a start to review what changes or situation happened then that started to affect your son's sneaking back to your room, it may be his situation in school maybe or something in the family he noticed that changed or something
2007-12-27 09:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by oki doki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋