My boyfriend actually told me he was going to propose and went on and on about how special this christmas would be. He never asked me and I'm starting to resent him.
2007-12-26 22:28:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not rushing things, we've been together 3 and a half years
2007-12-26 22:39:21 · update #1
Maybe he realized that he'd given too many hints and really wants to surprise you. Just enjoy your times together and one day he'll propose when you least expect it. Sounds like he has something planned and loves to surprise you.
2007-12-27 02:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Woods 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was proposed to on Christmas Eve of last year. It was amazing. I don't blame you, I would be uneasy if I were you as well. If he was planning to propose he should have never told you. Proposing is supposed to be a surprise. When he tells you he is going to propose, you expect it. Then when it doesn't happen you are flooded with disappointment and confusion. He should not play games like this with you. Taking the step to propose is HUGE. He could be scared, and something may have happened to prevent him from proposing? I am really unsure. However, I still think he shouldn't have told you in the first place. If he is decides to tell you that he is going to propose, then he needs to do just that! He possibly may have regretted telling you that we was proposing. He may have felt that he had ruined the surprised, so he decided to stall the proposal until you possibly forget that he told you? It's possible. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully you will get some kind of answers soon.
2007-12-27 11:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by HRiCHxO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years and we just moved in together 5 months ago and he said that he was going to ask me at the end of this year and I was thinking Christmas but he hasn't said anything about it and Christmas has passed, so now I'm thinkin maybe New Years Eve. I feel like I will start to resent him also because he shouldn't have told me that when we moved in together. So you and I are in the same situation so the only thing we can do now is wait. Good Luck, I hope you get your ring!
2007-12-27 17:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he decided that it would be more special to ask you when there aren't other distractions, like Christmas and family all around. I am not a big fan of the "holiday" proposal- Christmas, birthday, Valentines, etc-- a proposal should be it's own event.
If you want to marry him, you should feel comfortable enough to ask him. You don't have to demand a ring, just ask him where he sees things going and when he thinks he'll be ready to move to the next level.
2007-12-27 09:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then talk to him about it, but really it is never a good idea to expect anything as you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. You have been together for 3 and a half years so you should feel comfortable talking to him about this, say to him that he made you get your hopes up by dropping hints about it, and that you are a little bit hurt, talk before the resentment sets in.
2007-12-28 06:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me! He bought my ring, asked my parents permission and never did it. He had told me Christmas was gonna be awesome....What a disappointment! My WHOLE family was asking me where the ring was and if we had set a date. I, not him had to tell ALL of them, not only my family but his as well that there was no engagment because evidentally his family had expected it too. This Christmas was the worst one I've ever had.
2007-12-27 12:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by cutiepie88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ve learned not to expect anything.... All though 2 different friends did get engaged..and yes they haven't been together as long as me and my guy...and he knew all about it before it happened but it doesn't have any effect on him ...Although I personally think that an engagement shouldn't be a "Christmas present"
2007-12-29 08:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by itzmeturtle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah - i understand... Mine said he had "something big planned" but things fell through and i actually didn't get anything from him on christmas - We've picked out and ordered some other presents, but its still hard to have your hopes up... (we've been together for 7 years)
2007-12-27 10:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be disappointed. Maybe he thought you were expecting it on Christmas and wants to surprise you. There is midnight on New Years coming up.....that's when I got engaged and it was truly romantic.
2007-12-27 07:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax with family now because the week gets so busy later you may not have the time.
2007-12-27 06:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋