i like this boy,
he has a gf,
on the fone to him the other night talking spilling my heart out
he gave me abit of advice and said not to give up
but i duno what im spose to do
ive tried everything
i wrote him a letter walked to his house :(
i just need something BIG to make him realise
any ideas?
i want them out of the ordinary !!
2007-12-26 22:13:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol he's like "you shouldn't give up?"
He loves the attention. stop giving him it and he will come running back!!!!
2007-12-26 22:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Thecrazyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhh ~ unrequited love... Lasts the longest... Hurts the most...
No need to chase after him... He knows how you feel but please no more letters or spilling your heart out to him OK? It's not what you need to be doing right now to win him over.
The gf is a temporary problem.... Don't wast a moment of time thinking about the competition as she can be turned into just another reason to tease him. Don't say anything negative about the gf ~ He'll get defensive... In stead the next time you talk to him or flirt with him... Remind him that he has a girlfriend and you wouldn't want to do anything to hurt that relationship.... Then turn the flirting off....
He will ache for it to continue....
You don't need anything big to make him realize what he is missing....
In stead of thinking in big terms think in small gradual steps that will go unnoticed.... If you are too obvious in what you are trying to do defenses will go up and he will resist you... Not good.
I suggest a number of small things every week to keep him thinking about you.. Keep your phone conversations very short.... I know every ounce of your being wants to stay on the phone with him... You must create tension and curiosity as to what you are up to... When I say very short I mean no longer than 10 minutes.
Show signs of disinterest... Followed by hints of wanting to spend time with him... Be subtle.... Sending mixed signals to a person you are interested in is a very powerful way of making them think about you (He cannot help but wonder why you have changed ~ Could you be loosing interest???)
Continue this for a few weeks and then make bolder statements... followed by an immediate retraction or apology... Ooops! I did not mean to say that.... You have a girlfriend.... I'm sorry we shouldn't talk like this.... I just remembered I was supposed to call someone..... I gotta go....
He told you not to give up... Don't give up... Just change what you are doing with him. Change the way you are communicating with him.Be more subtle and less direct, don't make yourself available to him as much as you have been.
Right now he is confident he has your undivided attention.. Shake that confidence he has and replace it with doubt and wonder... Hmmmm What is she up to?? The point is: Make him think about you night and day.
Do not worry about standing back from him just a little... Give him space to fall for you. Don't appear to be so needy...
Confusing a guy is the easiest and best way to tie his heart in knots over you..... I thought girls automatically knew this stuff already....
2007-12-27 07:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by ezxqz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes the fact that you are running after him, and he will use you when he needs you, but right now he has someone else. So keep running after him and be second until he needs you, or you could be third or fourth. Drop him and find someone that will love you for the nice person you can be.
2007-12-27 06:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't hang on to someone, especially if they're dating someone else, you're just wasting your time and honestly embarassing yourself.
move on, there are a TON of other people out there for you,
just trust,
unrequited love sucks, and its unhealthy for you anyway
2007-12-27 06:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by 21BearHugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with LIPPIE
He's using you [period!]
Guys love attention, trust me...my best friend is like that.
-Jicko
2007-12-27 06:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by mamereleven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋