why is it that girls don't like me???????????

Question

I'm 23. this is something I've observed consistently and over several years. lots of little things. like i wish someone happy new year and she doesn't wish me back. i buy someone coffee and she never talks to me again.

it's not just one or two girls. it's everyone. and i can't figure out why. the only time girls talk to me is when they want a favor from me.
when i ask girls out on dates, they give me all kinds of excuses to avoid them.
each of the above examples is with a different girl! so they all hate me. why???

one girl told me its because i'm not confident enough.

Answer 1

You look desperate.

No chick wants a clammy guy that clings on. And no confidence gives us that image. You need to portray yourself differently.

I am sure you are an attractive young male you just need to believe in yourself. Females look for males who can literally grab life by the balls and shake the crap out of it. We want them to be DOMINANT.

Use eye contact. make sure your eyes show that you are confident. Have a piercing look then look away. Hold her gaze for a while and then let go. Too much staring is creepy. Look down occasionally.

If she says she isn't available and doesn't re arrange a time tell her that its cool and wait 3 days. Contact her again then. If it doesn't work out move on.

YOU CANNOT come across as too available. We don't want a man that lingers around all the time, we like to know that you have some form of social life as well. And if they are playing hard to get, you play your part and make them work for your chase. There is a difference between hard to get and missionfregginimpossible. You need to tell them apart. Some females will give you their number even if they are not interested. Attempt (the asking out) twice on each female at most.

Good luck

Answer 2

that girl is probably right. You need to have something greater to offer than what girls already have. They need to have something to be interested in, or be proud of and excited about when they go out with someone.

Confidence is not just about your mentality, it's everything. The way you act, the way you smile, the way you dress, the things you do. Don't always say yes to favors, since you just let girls push you over and categorize you as the nice guy to take advantage of. Make them work for it.

One important thing is always look them straight in the eye, no where else. This shows that you are confident, and you have nothing to hide. Secondly, have a sense of humor, and constantly ask questions about her, but don't seem desperate either. Girls usually love to talk about themselves, but they just need someone to get them going.

Dress sharp. Always dress sharp. Walk and talk with some conviction. Act a million bucks. You will be a chick magnet if you raise your confidence.

Answer 3

My best guess is that you bother them too much. Not wishing you a happy new year back indicates a concern about your talking more to them.

All kinds of exuses to avoid dates indicates that you are persistently asking like crazy instead of moving on as quickly as they would normally prefer.

Just move on and stop obsessing. Your jump to saying they all hate you is a sign of dwelling too long and in a bad way about things. Move on when it doesn't work. Respect their decisions faster. It'll take practice but you'll be better for it.

Answer 4

Well maybe you need to stop trying so hard and just be yourself. You don't want to be "that creepy guy" do you? Don't look at every woman as a potential mate..... and that way women will see you for who you are. I think that it is often the case that an attractive person is one that isn't looking for a date... you see them for who they really are... rather than as someone who is out to impress me or sell me a used car.

Answer 5

You seem like a nice guy. Having manners, buying coffee for ppl,doing favors for ppl, etc....
I would venture to say u are approaching the wrong girls. I learned a long time ago that sometime to have to rethink your strategy in whatever it is your doing.

Answer 6

if it is because you are not confident enough go find your local irish drunk and observe him. us irish believe we are gods so we have plenty of confidence. lol

but seriously if you have an irish friend who is confident and fun loving observe him and take notes. don't slouch, keep your chin up, don't be nervous, and have a good sense of humor.

women love me because i am confident and smart. the dumb girls i know can't understand most of my jokes without pulling out a history text book. but i will lower the standard of my jokes to make them laugh.

Answer 7

who knows why, maybe you're just not talking to the right girls?
or take too long to ask them out?
there's alot of things that could be the reason but generally if you're a good guy, with a job, take good care of yourself and have a decent personality, then you shouldn't have too much trouble,
but I seriously doubt they "hate" you, unless you're some sort of a**hole or somethin

Answer 8

the fact that she was honest helps lack of confidence is a big turn of , try a martial arts class or something that you thing will help you feel bad *** . the confidence in one area will usually spread

Answer 9

There must be some problem . you can not straight away ask all things ,
you must become a friend .If you go on from one to the other asking same THING no one will like you see?

Answer 10

not confident enough? If a girl likes you, they'll come to you. They won't want to interact unless they really like you. Take this from someone who knows!