you think you've met crazy ex girlfriends before? well.. you've never met this girl.
i'm a freshman at college & i started seeing this guy whom i just met at school. there was this girl that he dated back in highschool for awhile that he mentioned still kind of called him and texted him and was super clingy.
well.. that was an understatement. she calls him atleast 15 times a day, texts atleast 10 times, instant messages all the time, and recently obtained my phone number as well =[ ugh.
well my real problem isn't taking care of her because honestly, her desperation is kind of funny, it's what she tells me. she tells me that my boyfriend cheats on me [not with her though, with a girl from their highschool] and i don't know whether or not to believe her. my boyfriend denies it, but why would he admit it? the fact that she is obsessed with him makes me not believe her, but could there be truth to what she says? i know you don't know me, or my bf, or his ex, but any advice would help!
2007-12-26 21:26:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't trust the stupid ex-girlfriend of his. trust your boyfriend. she's only saying that because she wants him back and is trying to break you two apart from each other. so trust your boyfriend, not his ex.
-ConfusedGirlForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-26 21:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there could certainly be truth to what she says. Why not do a little bit of investigative work on the side - can you access the other girl's name and her Myspace or Facebook or any other networking strategies?
You didn't say how much it would bother you if it were true that your bf was cheating on you with this other girl.
Assuming you and he have an understanding that yours is a monogamous relationship, then I would get to the bottom of this sooner rather than later. Because if he's cheating now, after a few months, what will he be doing in a year or two? Not to mention what it says of his character (lying about something so important is not exactly a virtue, is it?)
On the other hand, there might be Zero truth to what the jealous ex-gf is spouting. If you and your bf live on campus at school, it doesn't exactly leave him with a lot of time to "cheat," does it? Just a thought.
2007-12-26 21:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by SafeJourney 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop talking to this girl. If you have too, change your number. She sounds like a crazy stalker and you can't trust anything she says. You don't know her, but you do know him. Has he ever given you any indication that he's cheating on you? Until he does, you have to believe him. A relationship without trust isnt a relationship at all.
Ask yourself a few things. Do your friends like him? Your parents? Is he a generally honest person about most things? What are his morals and beliefs in life? What are his friends like? How does he treat his mother/sister/female relatives? If the answers to these questions are positive, then give him the benefit of the doubt.
This other girl has a clear motive for destroying your relationship. She has every reason to lie. Stay away from her, because girls like her can be dangerous.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 21:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Spring 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am going through the same thing. Every time she says he does this or did that, I used to get so upset, then I said prove it. She always changes the story. Says she has texts, I tell her to forward them. And yes it is my phone that she calls. What matters is when she calls my guy is with me or at work. She just wants him back. Is he returning her calls, that has to stop? Also the best thing is not to answer, I know it is hard because you just want to tell her off but that is the attention she is after.
2007-12-26 21:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by luv_doesnt_hurt_lies_do 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but it sounds like your boyfriend is still talking to this girl when you aren't around.This shouldn't be a problem if he isn't still talking to her. If that isn't true and he really is telling her to leave you two alone then he needs to just start ignoring her calls and not responding to the texts. She will eventually get the point. There's no reason for this to be a problem. If he isn't talking to her and not seeing her she will eventually understand and move on. Just give it time and don't worry about her.
2016-05-27 00:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is being honest all the crazy ex wants is for you to leave him so he is back on the market and has a bad name for himself. My phyco of and ex tryed telling my now gf that me and her had a baby together and i refused to pay child support. Im 19, no kid she told me flat out she just wanted my gf to leave me so we would get back together. Some girls are just messed up in the head. Talk to your boyfriend not her.
2007-12-26 21:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by krameropel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would handle this with skepticism until I had an actual reason to believe her. For instance, some evidence. For all we know, she's just trying to get you to doubt your boyfriend. She does seem to be the type, with the psychotic messaging and calling.
2007-12-26 21:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by IceRazor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your boyfriend, not this girl, she's trying to make trouble for you both. It's as clear as day.
2007-12-26 21:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by OzDonna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is don't talk to her...don't get into conversations with her at all...its a bad idea. She'll try to get into your head..she has already...tell her not to call you anymore...be hard about it.
2007-12-26 21:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust ur bf and just ignore the crazy ex...♥
like u sed,,, she's crazy!
2007-12-26 21:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋