if so, do you regret it?
2007-12-26 21:17:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
also, why is something so necessary and natural the subject of so much distaste?
2007-12-26 21:19:38 · update #1
Waited, don't regret it at all. My wife was well worth the wait.
2007-12-26 21:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by capitalctu 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I didn't! I am happy that I didn't because for me sex is a big part of my relationship. It's how I feel close to my husband and it is true intimacy at it's best. I have read so many stories of people who have waited until marriage to have sex and they are just miserable. I am not saying that everyone who waited is miserable but sex is a learning experience and great sex and intimacy, in my opinion, comes from experience.
Adding to your distaste comment.... Sex remains an issue that so many people are uptight about. I truely wonder how many of you people who have had the ONE SEX partner since marriage can honestly attest to not having a desire to be with someone else, cheating or being 100% comfortable in thinking that your spouse hasn't seeked pleasure outside of your bedroom!?! Sex is natural, it's human nature and people have desire far beyond what morals and the church can instill! Perhaps there is so much distate over this very subject because of sexual inexperience. If you like sex...married or not...same partner for years or not...sexy is not dirty and should not be distasteful!
2007-12-26 21:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait? You've got to be kidding!
But, this is the power of the flesh and the one BIG thing that satan rules over us.
If this sex thing is so great and "natural", why is there so much disease related to it? Why is there so much depression and animosity between people over it? Why are there MILLIONS of abortions of baby human beings? Ask any woman that has had one HOW she feels about pre-marital sex! Having "unprotected" sex nowadays is asked for a death sentence. The only protected sex is that which is in the confines and sanctity of marriage.
I was at a wedding a couple of years ago and after the minister pronounced the couple man and wife he turned to the congregation and announced that the new couple would like to share something with the audience. Their First Kiss!
There was not a dry eye in the place!
Personally, I felt shamed by my life and the strength that this couple showed us was not restraint, but total LOVE!
You can't go back.
p.s. My 20 y.o. son, in college, is abstaining. Whoever becomes his wife will receive the ultimate wedding gift.
2007-12-26 21:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by craig b 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I was a virgin by choice when I married. I never regretted it.
I never had to worry if anyone was passing me from guy to guy...or if I were pregnant..and most of all I had self respect.
My husband also was a virgin by choice. He was a high school football player and was very handsome yet he did not want a bad reputation.
It is Satan that makes everyone think it is no big deal to have sex outside of marriage.
God thinks it is a big deal and ordered those committing adultery and fornication to be put to death.
If I were you and you were committing these heinous acts against God..I would stop and beg for forgiveness.
2007-12-26 21:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It amazes me how most people here don't see anything wrong with pre-marital sex. Just open your eyes! Unwanted pregnancies (adults AND teens), AIDS and other nasty diseases, abscent fathers or just the opposite (too many coming in and out of a child's life), abortions... not to mention the emotional turmoil and disappointments that may come from it. Sex isn't as glamorous as some of you are making it seem. People get killed and hurt everyday because of it... I agree with the sister above. Stop being nasty and Repent!
Sex is SUPPOSED to be a beautiful and loving act among MARRIED people. Instead it's degraced by anyone who "gets the urge" or who "falls in love".
I just can't get over how blind it seems most people are. The mis-use of sex has ruined many lives.
2007-12-27 04:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
My husband and I were both virgins when we married and why would we regret it? We totally trust each other and there is no comparisons or pasts to drag up. We simply have belonged to each other for 27 years.
2007-12-26 21:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
Or if you define "marriage" as a "spiritual bond", as some say the Bible intends, and perhaps consider this to be the state of being in love, then yes, I did wait.
2007-12-26 21:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by 5th Watcher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin when I married my first husband. Big Mistake! We definitely were not sexually compatible. I've said it many times, if I had had sex with him before we got married, I wouldn't have married him. If sex is great, it's not a big deal in the relationship. If it is bad, then it's a big deal.
2007-12-27 00:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Elphaba 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that we human beings are more honorable than animals that`s why Allah makes our marrige regulated with wedlock .A man is a great creature whose sexul life ,like any of other aspects of his life , needs arrangements and regulations.Iwant to ask only one question:every thing in life around us ,especially in west societies,is going on according to very accurate discipline why this is not applied to the private sexual relation also why it is left to chaos!!!!
2007-12-26 22:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by radaallah a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont believe in waiting. mainly ebcause i dont see myslef getting married.
i think that sex is a wonderful way of expressing love and why is the love you feel for someone less pure if you are not married.
its only a rule put in place by the church and im sorry but love is love.
people are still quite prudish really
2007-12-26 21:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by LBB 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋