I am 33 he is a 60 yr old retiree pretty well off i miht add, we have been dating 2 months and he says he is tired of doing the heavy lifting in his relationship which is, he says he wants me to pick up the tab a time or 2, i told him things change you have to give me a chance he said you are not going to change, he has spoiled me, he says he has to fight or the the things that i get easy i think he is a jerk i dont think this can be worked out?!!?
2007-12-26 21:17:40 · 6 answers · asked by latora_king 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the two of you cannot figure out how to negotiate the issue of who should pay for your activities, you really do not have much of a future. Just because he is "pretty well off" does not mean he should have to pick up the check every single time you go out. If you cannot talk through these things and come to an agreement on how to handle them, you do not have much of a relationship.
2007-12-26 21:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Windi Lea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? He's probably been married before and has a long history of causing grief in women. If he's pretty well off, why should you pick up the tab? Maybe because he has someone else and is wondering which of the two of you to ditch?
I would love to find a 33 year old to date and I'm in my thirties. But if I found out you were settling for him, I would probably get away from you fast. Have more respect for yourself than that.
UPDATE: I just read one of your previous questions. Yikes! I cannot believe you actually agreed to have intercourse with the old loser. That's a shame but at least you can get out now and not make the same mistake again. Not only should you preserve yourself for marriage but you should only be in relationships in which the other person actually cares about being there for you.
2007-12-27 05:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does seem like your after money just by the age difference. If not what do you see in a 60 year old man and your not even 40. He should have known that when he started dating a younger woman.
2007-12-27 05:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Peace Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If spoiling you is paying for dinner, I wonder what kind of guys you dated before. If a man takes you out he's supposed to pay. A guy that spoils you wouldn't ask you to foot the bill especially after knowing you for only 2 months. I dated a guy on and off for 5 years, and only footed the bill once, because I asked him out. Never once did he complain, never once did he ask me to pay, and anytime I tried he refused. Maybe you need to have better standards, it sounds like you are used to dating losers. Just because a guy has some money doesn't mean he's not a jerk. Your guy sounds like a jerk, and he doesn't plan to spend his money on you. Sounds like he wants to spend yours.
2007-12-27 05:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl what are you doing dating a 60 yr old in the first place?? Secondly he may be right, It sounds to me like you are gold digging!
2007-12-27 05:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by dreamsofanangel00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after two months and you havn't even offered to pay for a meal or anything?? any real relationship is give and take, not just take, take, take...
if you're not willing to give a little back then i don't see that relationship going anywhere...
2007-12-27 05:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋