I have been dating this nice man for about 4 mos and his feelings seem to be getting deeper. We are both over 40 and not kids. I did make the mistake of getting cold feet a few times and thinking I should break up. Now, I see we have something good, but don't know when to ask him to stop keeping his options open and really get off the personals.
2007-12-26 19:33:40 · 4 answers · asked by Chantii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he should have been off when he started seeing you, if he is taking your relationship seriously
2007-12-26 19:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. I'm over 40, too.
My question to you is- does this guy know you are serious about him now?
If so, and he hasn't volunteered to take himself off the "available" list, then it's likely he is not interested in an exclusive relationship.
Maybe he is holding his heart in reserve now, if you've shown signs that you were not committed to him in the recent past. You might find some way to try to show him your deepening feelings without scaring him off.
No, I don't know exactly what those ways would be but you might start with sharing your concern for his personal safety, is he eating right, is there anything you can do to be helpful, etc. Basically, show your care for him in tangible ways and see what begins to develop.
And you could also let him know that you have taken yourself off the personals. Maybe that would show him that you're considering your relationship to be exclusive. If he's interested in the committment, this would be a big sign to him that he could begin to think about also making that committment.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 03:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by R M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to ask him to remove his profile. If he feels that the relationship has deepened and he lets you know that he wants to be exclusive to you then he will remove his profile. It's probably still up for a reason because he wants to keep his options open and feels that the relationship is not quite deep yet. Maybe in your mind you want the relationship to be exclusive but in his mind he is unsure? I think his profile is still up for a reason, he wants to see what else is out there.
2007-12-27 03:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not need to ask he should just stop if he considers the relationship important enough ---- i do when i met my lady and i deleted my account and stopped visiting the dating sites i was on --- this i do not consider a dating site ---- imagine it all these teenagers and a 50+ ---- sheesh --- so maybe have a talk to him and see what he thinks of this relationship ---- best wishes
2007-12-27 03:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋