Alrighty, so I recently started dating this guy. And well we were friends at first for the most part because he was still in love with his x-girl. Well I played the friend mode and eventually found a way to his heart. And now we are together. But what worries me is his X. Okay so she cut him out of her life and never talks to him but what if when she finds out about us she realizes she wants him back! She is so gorgeous and I'm afraid at the fact that I'm going to get left. We have exchanged I love yous already and I know I have fallen for him hard. But am I just a rebound and when or if she comes back will he go back with her? Please I need some words of advice or for someone to tell me what to do.......anything would help
thank you
2007-12-26 18:48:16 · 6 answers · asked by Cubsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you "played the friend role" it would seem to me that you hadn't shown him your true self. I don't know if she'll come back into the picture or not, but I do know it is important to be truthful in your relationships and proud of who you are.
If you are insecure with yourself (not him, not the other girl, but you), then you need to let him know that sometimes you might need a little reassurance - not lies, not half truths but honest feedback about how you feel about each other.
If he truly still has feelings for her, your relationship should be such that he can share that with you. Also, if you have made a commitment to be together, hopefully you are both mature enough to honor and respect that commitment. If there is no commitment, then you should both be able to discuss your relationship goals.
2007-12-26 18:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Trish H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, simetimes when a guy likes u, he doesn't care about look. Maybe u're even better than his ex. U can't judge urself. U gotta trust him. If u like him, u gotta trust him. U can't tell him what to do. It's unfair for him. U definately can't control his heart. Yes, that's the only thing u can do, trust him.
2007-12-27 02:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not talk about that with him? If he says that he is over her and loves you, then go on with your life. If something bad happens, it's his loss that he went out with his ex and not you. =) Hope this helps
2007-12-27 02:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really does not matter what she looks like if there is something in her personality that he cant get on with --- i think you are worrying for no reason --- trust him and that he is with you for all the right reasons ----- best wishes
2007-12-27 02:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk clearly with ur date. and final this matter as early as possible. don't do it linger. then it will effect ur mind.
good luck
2007-12-27 02:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he said i love you ... if he is a good guy he means it.
i never handed out i love yous if i didnt.
2007-12-27 02:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by rufstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋