I want sex all the time (I would like it 6 days a week- I like one day of rest) which is in direct conflict with my husband who never wants sex - we've had sex a grand total of 3 times this year and only cause I begged for it. He even denies self gratification. He says people (I think he means me) think about sex all the time.
Guilty as charged ( I never tell him about my fantasies - I think he would die from shock)
My female friends seem to be more like my husband and they complain about their husbands wanting to much sex (I wish!) am I a freak because I'm not like them?
2007-12-26 18:46:27 · 20 answers · asked by beffie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've never cheated - just living the nun life and hoping that one day things will change.
I never minded before I think because I was young but now that I've reached my sexual peak things have changed!
2007-12-26 18:59:08 · update #1
Mens sex drives will vary just as womens will. I have one friend who isn't a big sex fan, I have other friends who need to have it twice a day. Personally, I liked having it at least 2 - 3x per week, and I'm sure I will again once i get married.
You said it was like this the whole time you dated him and when you first got married? That's good because at least you know he's not cheating on you.
I believe that this is a really serious issue in a relationship, because though you've been really good about it so far, you will eventually grow tired of it. Have you tried talking to him about it and eally expressing to him what you need? Having sex only 3 times a year does not seem normal. Maybe some seeking out someone to talk to would really help matters.
I'm just glad to know that women like you are out there and are the marrying/honest/faithful type! That gives me hope!
2007-12-26 19:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a freak, most people like sex. You might enjoy it a bit more than most females, but most males would love a partner who was so willing.
You need to sit down with your husband and explain that he's not fulfilling your sexual needs. Offer a compromise on how much you will have. Also, make sure you get some alone time if you need to vent some of that energy of yours. I don't know if you do that already, but it can only help.
2007-12-26 18:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! I so feel your pain! I have been with this guy for what'll be a year in Jan. and we haven't had sex yet! WTF?!? I know, crazy, sad, etc... And yes, I agree, it totally sucks especially when you think about it all the time (I do too and how sad it is that I'm not getting it from the person who should be wanting to do it to me...) I'm just glad that I haven't married him. Yikes!Talk about frustrating! But don't fret, you are not a freak! You are just a grown woman that needs and deserves to have a healthy sex life. Because, after all, regular sex is very healthy for the mind, body, and spirit! Maybe you should remind him about all of that! It's a great workout and it helps you eliminate stress, etc... Good luck!
2007-12-26 18:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by MochaLatte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think you've got problem, but your husband does. a married man had sex with his wife 3 times a year are you crazy. men want to have sex more than 3 times a week (actually they wanted everyday)
2007-12-26 18:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god i hate seeing pointless answers its not helping ppl... sigh... anyways... no thats normal look dont over think things people love to have sex... girls like sex just as much as men do.... the only diff is girls moan guys dont.. not unless theyre really in to it lol.... but anyways be comfy about ursexuality... at least tell him ur fantasies.. ur not gonna know unless you try... cuz most guys think it will ruin the relationship if the have too much sex... like the female friends u have... i think he fears that... since your friends are like that ur husband prolly heard some of the words and stoped himself from being u know and ruin the relationship
2007-12-26 18:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a freak at all...you just have a healthy sex drive. What IS freaky is your husband's attempt to supress it. He doesn't ever have sex with you and doens't want you to help yourself even? That's pretty messed up. Maybe there are underlying problems with the relationship and that's why he doesn't want to. Just be upfront and ask him about it.
2007-12-26 18:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope..I like It 3-4 times A Day every day
2007-12-26 18:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason a woman would want sex all the time, is if she feels like she isn't being satisfied (either mentally, physically, emotionally) So which one of those aren't you having met?
2007-12-26 18:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not a freek you just love sex more thansome people do. And there's nothign wrong with that. SO want to chat jsut IM me anytime
2007-12-26 19:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a freak.. You'll never get what you want from hubbie. You need a couple of good male friends to help you out. I'm not kidding.
2007-12-26 18:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by Ben Trolled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋