If someone called you whom you had not given your phone number to, would you find it intriguing or creepy?

Question

Assume the person calling you is not acting creepy in the first place, and is friendly and you some what know them in person, and says that they looked your number up in the phone book. They call to ask to hang out. Creepy or flattering?

Answer 1

If it's a guy and I don't know him too well, it would be a bit creepy for him to look me up in a phone book. I'd think that since he knows you a little, he can just ask you in person if you wanted to hang out.

Answer 2

It depends on a case to case basis. If the person who called you up is someone you should know or familiar with say a classmate, officemate. It may not be so creepy since there's a reason why they know your name. And you can find out something about them through your common group. It may also be a bit flattering, if this person is someone you met through a common friend and have talked and interacted with, just failed to exchange contact details.
It is also depends on how popular you are in a community or organization. A popular student in a college shouldn't be that surprise if a upper class man or a student from another college knows their name. So if your the type of person that isn't really popular that maybe a bit creepy on how they could looked up your number. It maybe not be so much if you have a common friend.
Of course its still depends on your upbringing, personality and the comfort zone of your privacy. If your creeped out that way request to be opt out in the directory. And change number.
Also although a person may appear non-threatening in calls. Its best to be careful.
I also don't agree that if the call is from a nerd, its creepy. Its creepier if its from a handsome popular guy or beautiful popular lady. At least for me, its creepier since this guy or girl has the confidence in their looks why in the world would they not approach me in person in front of a group and introduce themselves.
There should be solid sound reason how they knew your name. And if you want to meet have several friends accompany you in a different table secretly.

Answer 3

Given everything you just said, I'd say it's flattering. I had that happen once. I went to visit a friend in New Haven, CT where she was attending Yale. I went to a little party with her and while there, I met this guy who I ended up talking to the whole evening. At the end of it, he didn't ask for my number and I didn't think about it because I was from out of town so it's not like we could realistically pursue anything anyway. Imagine my surprise when I got a call from him at my friend's apartment the next day!! When I heard what all he had to go through to get my friend's phone number in order to reach me, I was incredibly flattered. Even though he knew I would be leaving in a day or so, he liked me so much, he wanted to take me on a date before I left. We went out, had a GREAT TIME and continued to talk online for a few months afterward. Eventually it ended but while it lasted, it was great!

Answer 4

Depends, if it is someone I was close to a long time ago and then sort of lost sight of them, and then they contact me in that way I mostly would be happy. But if this is someone I only got to know briefly I would be cautious there are a lot of crazy people running around. But it would really depend on the caller and what relationship you have with him/her. But go with your gut instinct, if your first though was 'this was kind of creepy' then listen to it, I found during the last years, that the first gut instinct kind of thought about a person or situation is often the most accurate.

Answer 5

Great question! I have a few thoughts on it.
I'd say being that you wrote you somewhat know them in person bugs me. How does he know your last name? Do you know his name and number? Ask mutual friends (if any) what they think of him?
This is not some old friend who looks you up in the book. This is someone interested in you and has not been invited to make this call. Being that he has your phone number he will also have your address. You are now vulnerable to danger. How do you know this guy?
The fact that you've asked this question tells me your guy intinct is speaking out and perhaps you should listen to it instead of your kind nature.
Thanks for your question, it's helped me.

Answer 6

A bit of both. You should be flattered that someone has noticed you from afar. That's how people fall in love! It's just that digging through the phonebook to find their number is going a bit far. They have to EARN your number, damn it! By asking you personally, etc. If you're not interested but they keep calling you, I suggest the use of a soundboard the next time they call: http://www.soundboards.com/?view=105

LAWLZ.

Answer 7

It really depends on who that person is and what sort of a relationship you have with them. If it's a nice person then maybe they're just trying to make a new friend. If it's someone who I know very little then I'd find this kind of weird I guess, but like I said, it all depends on who this person is and how you know them.

Answer 8

Its creepy in the sense that he/she doesn't have a friend who knows you that he/she can ask about you, so the person had to resort to a phonebook listing.

What if you know you're not listed anywhere? It now becomes intriguing, because this person may know a friend of yours and asked about you or this person may have stolen your number from a friend. :)

Answer 9

Yes just say who gave you my phone number !
Next time you see this [person say dont give out my phone number you want to have the nay or say on who you are introduced to. You cnrt tell if they got B.O over the phone

Answer 10

Please go by the ol' adage, "Don't judge a book by its cover." One may seem very nice and friendly, be a great actor (or actress) and yet have a very dark side. I would get creeped out if the person looked me up and called me. If you are that curious, please Only meet at a public place and be very cautious with your personal information, giving out one's last name and where one lives.