My 3 yr lod is comming home from her dads cussing, playing with her nipples and says daddy lets me put my finger in his belly button. Tonight she put her tounge in my mouth I asked her where she learned that she said Daddy. Am I blowing this out of proportion? What should I do?
2007-12-26 18:22:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Have your child checked by her Ped just as a precaution. Typically, when a child is molested they become reclusive not expressive. Discuss with her father what she is watching on television, because many of times children are simply mimicking what they see on the tube. She could have easily seen a couple creasing, groping, or kissing one another on television and is mimicking that behavior.
2007-12-27 19:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by momtojunebaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son's real father abandoned me before my son was even born .. and I don't even have a picture of him so my son doesn't even know what his father looks like. My son is 20 years old now and is his first child (also a son) is due any day. My parents both stepped in an took extremely good care of my son so for the most part, I think he was okay without a real father. Every situation is different though. For me, I would try to talk to a child psychologist and ask for their help on how to present this to your son. Have some answers handy when he begins to ask questions. Do some "what if" situations .. what if the Dad comes around and they begin to bond and then he turns into a deadbeat and takes off again .. then what will the child feel, think and do? Would it be more helpful or harmful to wait until he is older? My son didn't start to ask some questions until he was about 5 ... and then it was just, where is my Dad? What did he look like? Where did you meet him? I never lied to him .. I answered his questions to the best of my ability .. and when he was satisfied .. he wanted to play Monopoly... it was no big deal! He asked a couple of other questions about the 2nd or 3rd grade .. but when he turned 18 I gave him some things that his real Dad had given me and he got angry. He told me that his REAL father was Jesus Christ and that was the only father he ever needed. I was glad that he turned to Jesus .. but sad at the same time that he didn't want to talk about things. I am SO happy that he is now married, in the Air Force and it sticking around for his own son. Good luck to you! I will be praying for you and your son.
2016-04-11 02:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like sexual abuse going on. Take her to the family doctor, have her examined, and get his opinion. Then I'd tell the authorities exactly what she told you, press charges. Don't keep this a secret, by not telling anybody. This will only hurt you and your youngest daughter. This is something that has to be taken care of immediately. Please don't wait, because your little girl has already been abused. This could stay with her for a very long, long time. You'll also need to seek counseling for the both of you right away. Good luck!
2007-12-26 18:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_susy59 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its suspicious behavior and it is best to get some advice. Do not fear child protective services, they are not going to run in and take your child away. If you want some advice and to not call CPS try calling a 2-1-1 in your area. 2-1-1 is a free info line for social services and health. They can talk to you and offer some options. Keep in mind a lot of people are mandated reporters and if they become aware of anything that is detrimental to a child they have to report it. Its worth talking to a professional about because it is your child.
2007-12-26 18:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all the above comments. This might be more serious than it sounds. He may be sexually abusing her, or not educating her in a good way. Talk to lawyers etc, and try to take custody of your daughter - and fast.
2007-12-26 18:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not over reacting. Have your daughter talk to a specialist to find out what is going on over there.
You can never be to careful these days so do something now before it's to late.
2007-12-26 18:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't ignore what your child is saying, take you child to the doctor tell them what you is saying.and until this issue is resolved she should not see her father without someone supervising. It is very rare for a child that age to make up something like that, don't worry about the father right now you keeping your child safe is the most important thing.
2007-12-26 18:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds really bad and prob is something but be weary of reporting to authorities. they could take the kid off you aswell just because they are pathetic....the 'authorities' are usually really bad at dealing with the prob- sometimes just take away the kid from the family altogther. other times they dont deal with the real issues at all.
but yeh i would take it seriously. real serioulsy.
maybe set up a camera in the dads room or soemthing.
2007-12-26 18:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by peeping_ur_tom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should report it right away... 3 year olds can have an imagination, but I seriously doubt these are things that she could think up!!! You have to protect your child... better safe than sorry!!!!
2007-12-26 18:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would take her to a couselor. Take her to the pediatritan and make a report to the police.
2007-12-26 19:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋