I have asked this question before, but didn't really get an answer, so I will try again...this is pretty important. Thanks in advance.
If I want to file a restraining order against my husband who I recently left (in Canada), can I get to apply to just my school address (he knows where I go), or do I have to file my new home address & new job (both of which he doesn't know)? And if that is the case, then would it be worth it...to give this physically abusive man my address? Are there any other options?
2007-12-26 18:15:57 · 6 answers · asked by Traci B 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
He is looking for me, he`s followed me and physically assaulted me again when I was leaving my school, walking to the bus stop. As far as I know, he doesn`t know where I live, but I'm scared he'll find out...he's a firefighter with police friends.
And I'm scared that if I get a restraining order that says don't go to ___ (my address), he will ignore it and go anyways, having been given my address.
2007-12-26 18:16:10 · update #1
I know it doesn't make a lot of sense, that I should just call and ask...but I'm afraid, I'm not sure why. He's a firefighter and, well, I guess I just want to know what I'm dealing with before I call.
2007-12-26 18:28:37 · update #2
I see your dilemma. If you get the restraining order expanded to include your home, he'll know where you live. If you don't include your home, he might not be able to find you.
The issue is his willingness to obey *any* restraining order.
What flew over my head is this- what happened when he assaulted you at the bus stop where he wasn't supposed to be? What did the police report say?
This business about having police friends cuts two ways- his job depends on his ethical behavior. If you file a police report, it'll get back to his chief. Maybe you can contact his chief yourself and ask him (nicely) to help you keep your husband within the terms of the restraining order.
Have you contacted your local police about this previous violation? Seems to me, you haven't done everything you can.
Until you get some more confidence that he'll obey any restraining order, you might hold off expanding it.
Last thing- isn't there a women's group where you are where someone else in your position has learned how to keep someone away?
Good luck, and have a great New Year!
2007-12-26 18:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a police officer in California. Typically domestic violence orders and other criminal protective orders in California provide for a "100 yard stay away" order. This order says, "The restrained party must not contact, annoy, harass, telephone, contact via third person," ...etc. It also states the restrained party must stay 100 yards away from the protected person, their place of work, school, residence, etc. If he must stay away from you...then by default, he must stay away from your residence, work, etc. I don't know how Canada works, or how your order specifically reads, but I would say that you probably don't need the address listed on there.
2007-12-26 18:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in Canada, I would report to your local constable, every harassing or otherwise illegal act he does, if for no other reason than to document that it happened. I would also file a complaint about his conduct with the fire department where he works. All police and fire departments expect their officers/fireman to conduct themselves professionally, both on and off-duty, and they will take action if he keeps it up. Also, check with your local crown's attorney. I bet they have resources for victims of domestic abuse and can assist you and guide you through the process of getting the restraining orders.
2007-12-27 02:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my city, when you file for a restraining order, only your name and birthdate will go on the form and his name, birthdate and address go on there. You need to call the courthouse of whatever state you are living in and ask them these questions.
2007-12-26 18:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pesonaly i would get one regardless. if he ignores it then guess what he goes to jail now i know you have a lot of personal info on their that he will see but also do this when you get the order give it to school police with a picture of him so when he steps on campus he can be prosecuted you may want to get an alarm for your house too sorry this happend you deserve a lot better and i hope i helped you out
2007-12-26 18:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by theo136 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the state of Florida, if you request it, your address may remain confidential.
2007-12-27 04:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋