I just dont feel anything anymore sometimes i think i do but i dont. i dont want to make love, i dont want him to touch me i am very jumpy with him. he has tried to choke me twice and i don't want to get him in trouble i want him to get help. and he has no where to live he has no job and no real family. he has nothing so i hate to have him leave. i don't know what to do anymore i am so lost and confused. he eats all my food leaves me nothing smokes all my cancer sticks, takes whatever i have that he doesn't off of me such as drinks or food or candy anything. sits on my computer all day, uses my phone for whatever he wants, watches porno consistently, tells me to shut up all the time when i try working things out, makes me have sex when i dont want to or dont feel well, oh my goodness the list goes on i just feel so bad for him i don't know what to do.
2007-12-26 17:53:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl you got a serious problem. First, you need to make him leave. I know it's hard but you have to. You have no choice. The more you drag, not only you will suffer but he as well. You are like pampering him now which make him worse. Be strong to make decision. Ask someone for help, like your family, your friend or even anyone here ... we will be glad to help. If you have family, stay with them for a while until he never find you again. If things get worse, go to police. No matter what, please leave him. DO NOT WAIT ANY MORE LONGER ! Make this a new year resolution. Ditch him before New Year and get on with your new life ! Do it now ! Be brave and strong.
2007-12-27 02:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i understand that you feel bad about the everything especially because he has no place to stay and all but he's not benefiting you in no kind of shape form or fashion. If you keep him around he only going to bring you down. I understand that it maybe hard to leave but you have too. Because if this situation gets worst you can end up killing him or him killing you. If you are scared go to the police station and tell them that you have someone in your house that you want removed and they will escort him out. And then if he's tries to return call the police again and press charges on him and get a restraining order and a order of protection. That way you know for a fact that if he comes near and you call the police he's going straight to jail. Don't feel bad either because any man who hits women deserve to out on their *** and in jail. Good luck i wish you the best.
2007-12-26 18:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by blessed is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he has choked you before, you need to tell someone. Because when you break up you don't know what he'll do. You should report him to the police and get a restraining order. That should keep him from coming around but remember it's only a paper. Also tell the police you will be breaking up with him and you are concerned how to get him out of your place. The best way to break up with him is not to do it alone. Meet him for coffee somewhere so he can't hurt you. If your parents are close by you need to tell them what he has done to you and that you don't know what he'll do when you break up with him. After you get rid of him, you need to get some counseling to find out why you have put up with him for as long as you did. Good luck!
2007-12-26 18:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by curlies55 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's VERY difficult to break up with someone, but you have to find the courage to leave or kick him out! You'll grieve, but in the not too distant future you will be VERY grateful and have a much happier life. Break up with him and part ways with him - NOW. After you leave do not talk to him. Don't look back.
2007-12-26 18:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u gota break up with him, if he doesn't listen then force him to, make sure he hears u and tell him u dont like him no more and how he doesn't hav a job ......whatever etc...... and tell him to leave. it really makes no sense being wit someone who doesnt care for you . u cant let him control ur life all the time. he can't even manage his own life, how can he control urs?
2007-12-26 18:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Icyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over the feelings of sorrow for him, he's created his own misery.
You have to take care of yourself, or you will be the only one to blame for your misery.
Kick him out and get a restraining order.
If you seriously fear he's going to hurt you when you tell him to get out, call the police explain to them your situation and have them be there to escort him out.
they will tell him to not return and if he does you are to call them. You will be able to get a restraining order on him, and if doesn't leave you alone or trys to hurt you he deserves to be in jail...
2007-12-26 17:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight out - It is over!!!!!!!!!!!
Then if he tries anything with you, go straight to the police. The police will deal with him so that he cannot get to you anymore.
2007-12-26 17:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get out. If he refuses, have him removed by the police.
2007-12-26 17:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's just useless from what you say. He'll find someone else to leech off of if you get rid of him.
2007-12-26 17:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by implacablemage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to move out or you'll call the police on him.....
2007-12-26 18:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by cherry Loves the Lord God 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋