An ex I still talk to wants to go out again, but I just want to be friends. How should I let him know?

Question

Usually around this time of the year, he gets emotional because it brings back alot of controversial memories. He asked to go back to the way things were on the 23rd, and I know he really wants an answer soon. I feel bad because this is the first time he's had a nice Christmas since 2001, and I don't want to spoil it because of me not wanting to go out with him. He still loves me, and he's even told me this. But, I don't want to do it again because the last time we went out, he gave it 2 months, and said he didn't like the distance (we live 300+ miles apart) and said it wouldn't work. How would this time be different, I have no clue. He didn't really want to break up in the first place, but he didn't want to have the responsibilty of worrying about me that far away. Plus, the gas money to see me would be astronomical. He's a sweet guy, and he really really cares for me. I really don't want to spoil his holiday, but I want to decline the offer to go out again. Is this even possible?

Answer 1

Well I think he wants you right now because he misses the good times. But if you get back together, he will soon be flooded with memories of the distance etc (the bad times). So unless the distance situation changes, then no dont go back to him. Explain to him that the reason you two broke up at first hasnt changed, and that unless he does something to change that, then you cant commit emotionally again.

Answer 2

Just give him a little bit of your sweet stuff now and then until he can find a new gf. Help him make the transition.

Answer 3

Just say to him very gently that you can't go out with him anymore like how you told us :-)

Answer 4

Yes it is possible,but will be hard.You just have to be truthful with him about how you feel.

Answer 5

all you have to do is say no. ?