Heres the deal. My son has a history of saying he is sick so he can stay home from school, but only to find out later that he could have gone to school. If he felt a little down he would put on this big show on how sick he was. If he forgot to do his homework he would play sick. One year he had to do saturday school because he missed more than 10 days.
This year I told him he would have to go each and every day sick or not. Basicly you cried wolf too many time in the past so I do not know when to believe him. I told him I want perfect attendance from now on. Of course if he if puking is brains out of has a high fever I will not make him go, but the general rule now is he has to go. I did send him three times this year even though he said he did not feel well. He cried and put on a big show. One of the times the nurse called. I asked if he had a fever and she said no, did he throw up, no. I then told her what was going on and she sent him to class. Do you think I'm being too harsh?
2007-12-26 17:15:39 · 14 answers · asked by tomcat123 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No bullying believe me and no issues with the teachers. He is a a/b student when he applys himslef, I just have to stay on him.
2007-12-26 17:26:17 · update #1
If you are absolutely sure there is no bullying going on, that NO you are NOT being too harsh. We need more parents like you. One of my sons tried the same thing with me (long time ago). The problem was back then, they made sure I came and got him. Which was only teaching him that even if I sent him to school, he could get sent home. For example, one time someone in his class had lice. He figured out that if you had lice, you were automatically sent home and had to stay home for a few days. So...he decided to have lice too many times, and they kept sending him home instead of checking him. So I warned him that I would shave him bald if he lied again, and he did. So I shaved him bald. :) It worked! He is now a computer programmer all around the world. He travels everywhere. He also was an Honor Role Student. Just didnt like getting up to go to school. Good luck! Your doing great!
2007-12-26 17:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by FolkstonHorseLover 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not being too strict. When I was in HS, I did the same thing your son is doing. And my mom let me stay home whenever I wanted. And I really thought it was foolish for her to let me do that. And now as a parent, I will do what you're doing, and make my child go unless he's puking or a fever or contagious cough. There's really no other way to know they're sick.
But, that said, I was very unhappy at home. Not that that's what is going on with you. But you should try to find out why he hates school so much. There's something else going on. Perhaps, he's just bored at school and doesn't see the reason for going. Maybe you can find some other hobbies for him that can be rewards for going to school? Get him interested in what his career could be some day and point out how school will help that out. That's something I wish my parents did more with me. Or helped me get more involved in school activities. I think that would have made me enjoy school more.
2007-12-26 18:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by trapeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not at all... its good that you started doing it now because if you continued to let him do it, he would think he could always get away with it... send him to school unless like you said he is throwing up bad or obviously has a fever, if it's something serious the nurse will call and let you know and you can always go and pick him up from school early, at least he'll have gotten an attendance point for the day and won't have to worry about saturday school.
2007-12-26 19:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being too harsh. I would try to find out the reason he is missing school though. If it truly is because he doesn't like going... not too harmful. If he is being harrassed by other students or has depression or something.. then you have a problem.
I faked sick all throughout my years because I was made fun of a lot. I developed breasts when I was in the second grade and had my period when I was 9.
2007-12-26 17:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Van is due 5/8/08! 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am not one of those people who answer - go seek therapy or counseling for every question, but have you considered that he may have depression? Depression can make you feel sick, even when you aren't. If you don't know why he is continuing to cry wolf, it may be worth having a chat with the doctor. (While continuing to make him go to school, is still a good idea - education is important, he will thank you later).
2007-12-26 19:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same rules when I was a kid - I had to be vomiting or have a fever in order to stay home from school.
I think you're teaching him a valuable lesson about responsibility.
2007-12-26 23:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by Viv C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAo...I have one of those too!!! My daughter does the same thing and I tell the school "if she isn't hurt, running a fever, or puking send her back to class". No your not being to harsh.
2007-12-26 17:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by redbrat34 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, way too harsh. If he hates school this much it probably IS making him sick. Have you thought about home education?
2007-12-26 19:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by skuleathome 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I think that you are being a very responsible parent. Lets face it we all know when our children are really sick and then will act accordingly.
2007-12-26 20:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Alison B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NOT AT ALL TO STRICT. BUT I HAVE A TEEN THAT WAS DOING THE SAME THING ONLY TO FIND OUT SHE HAS A LEARNING DISABILITY. FIND OUT THE REAL REASON HE ISN'T WANT TO GO. GET TO THE BOTTOM, IF YOU LET HIM GET AWAY WITH NOT GOING YOU WILL END UP WITH A DROP OUT. SO NOT THAT IS NOT TO HARSH.
2007-12-26 17:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by a_embry 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋