When someone says Im worthless or cannot do something, or points out my past mistakes, how can I prevent ...?

Question

When someone says I'm worthless or cannot do something, or points out my past mistakes, how can I prevent it from getting to me and keep doing my best and not let thoughts of doubt impede my performance?

Answer 1

People can be so rude when dealing with someone with a mental health condition, because they lack empathy and understanding, and these people are best being avoided, family or not.

How to deal with negative comments;
When they say your worthless, say this to them
"If I am worthless why are you talking to me, I must be worth something to you"
Or
"Why are you belittling me, with your untrue and unkind comments?"

When they say you can't do some thing, point out all the things you have done, how ever minor.

When they point out your past mistakes, ask if you can drag up the past about their mistakes?
This usually makes them step back in shock, I then say well if you continue to harp on my mistakes, then its only fair that I start on yours.

Try not to let unwarranted and unkind comments get you down, and always think of a good come back, to negative comments (my daughter has this down pat, with the bullies).

If your feeling particularly nasty towards people who are being unkind, you could tell them "they are the south end of the north bound camel".

Answer 2

You have to look at why a person says something to you, good or bad. If they are trying to make you fail, why do you keep them around or listen to what they say. You know who they are and that they are not people that wish you any good or offer any encouragement so what they have to say isn't important. There are those people that just can't stand to see someone else succeed and get off on making themselves feel better by pointing out your failures. We all screw a few things up and we all make mistakes, it's part of life and learning. I've found I learn more from making mistakes than doing it right-not that I want to make mistakes. . . Those people that give you encouragement and help you succeed are truly your friends and it's their opinion that counts. But the most important opinion is yours. Have faith in yourself. My dad was a pitcher and I found an old fan letter where he talked about winning and losing. He said always remember that the team you beat today will beat you tomorrow and there is no shame in losing as long you did your best. That translates directly to you. . .just do your best. . . just tune out those that don't wish you well. . .and however anything comes out you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 3

They are wrong.
They need to put you down because they obviously feel bad about themselves.
I know it can be frustrating.
Hmmm...
Speak up to them.
Look into their eyes in a serious fashion.

It's not going to be easy, but work on it.

You are not worthless.
You are the best.

That is why people who don't truly know you try and only bring the negative on you.

Those are not friends, are not people you should be around.
Ignore them, laugh instead. Don'e let it get to you.

I think it's time you show they who you really are.
Ignore them and they will feel why they are being ignored. They will reflect back on why they are getting what they are getting.

Remember, this is true. I've seen it happen.

What comes around, goes around.
If these people are hurting you, one of these days they will get what they're asking for.

Shut them up.

Ughhhh...

I've gone through a lot. And if someone tries to put me down, I am going to shut them up, no matter who they are.

Answer 4

Why do you let people in your life say this to you? It's only true if you let it be true. You should protect your self esteem by staying far away from someone who would be so cruel. You don't say who says this, but if this is a parent, then stop being around them so much. If it is a job, then reconsider what you do for a living. If it's a loved one, then you need to move on. You don't deserve this.

Answer 5

You already have the right attitude about this, just keep up the good work. I was told during my growing up years that I would never amount to anything. But I proved them wrong. I wish you well. God didn't make any junk, and you are worthy. Don't ever accept when others say demeaning things to you.

Answer 6

the past is the past it all about the future so stop worrying about the past it already happen think of what is gonna happen in the future...........and dont ever let someone bring you down saying your worthless or cannot do something.you should not let people impede you from anything .they cant judge you .

Answer 7

Try to brush it off as merely one mans opinion. If that is to difficult then analyze why this person is so overly critical and negative of others and not them-self. You can gain insight on that person as an individual and distract yourself from focusing to much on the insult or hurt it caused. Also, if you are spiritual you could say a prayer for them...

Answer 8

Life is too short to give a damn about someone else's opinion. I would be willing to bet that this person, or people, probably feel that way about themselves. Just spend your time focusing on yourself. Do what makes you happy, and don't doust something that you believe in. We are what we make ourselves. Remember that.

Answer 9

you can just tell them that if they dont have anything to say nice not to say anything at all.. you teach people how to treat you so you need to put a stop to that kind of talk and yes dont let it get to you.. you know your better then they treat you.. also if it is not someone in your house i wouldnt both spending much time with that person.. good luck

Answer 10

show them that there wrong do something that you would be proud of go to school or what ever it takes an dont let anyone tell you that your worthless